Face
Face threatening Acts
What is FTA?
a cognitive process that consists of letting go of feelings of revenge and desires to retaliate
What is Forgiveness?
It is a process distinct from forgiveness.
What is reconciliation?
The desire for personal independence, autonomy, while avoiding unnecessary pressure, threats to one's choices and activities.
What is a Negative face?
when one doesn't let go of feeling of revenge and maintains a desire to retaliate. "an eye for an eye"
What is revenge?
a behavioral process in which we take actions to restore a relationship or create a new one following forgiveness.
What is reconciliation?
The desire to be liked, approved, and admired by others. It relates to the need for social approval and a sense of belonging
what is a positive face?
extremely problematic situations in which core rules of a relationship are violated, leaving high emotional residues.
What is Relational transgression?
People interact but maintain distance. The event is generally not discussed; if discussed, may be used as a means of maintaining power
What is Pseudo-Reconciliation?
the main goal is to show the addressee that you share the same wants and to assure a positive relationship between the two parties so the addressee does not attribute negative meanings to the FTA.
What is positive politeness?
“our expectations about the way we should behave toward others as they should behave towards us”
What are Core Rules?
The victim forgives for their own sake as well as for the sake of the relationship. The victim forgives because the offender is in need of forgiveness
What is Genuine Reconciliation?
the focus is to acknowledge and honor the addressee’s want to be unimpeded, so it is essentially avoidance-based, and often redressed with apologies for interrupting.
What is Negative Politeness?
Separates into 2 distinct categories: (1) Mental Health and (2) Physical Health
What are the Advantages of Forgiveness?
“We tend to look for others outside of ourselves to blame” Learning to forgive from a distance
What is moving beyond victimization?