CBT
You see constant, negative pattern based on one event. (Ex. all gang members are bad.)
Overgeneralizing
The skill that is used when both the emotional mind and rational mind are used to make a wise mind.
Mindfulness Skills
The stage where people are motivated to change their behavior and are actively involved in taking steps to change their bad behavior by using a variety of different techniques.
Action Stage
Respect for others' ideas, and an awareness of appropriate discussion. These boundaries are violated when someone dismisses or belittles another person's thoughts or ideas. Emotional boundaries refer to a person's feelings.
Intellectual Boundaries
Thinking Report - Part 1
Who was involved and what was said and done?
Situation
You have a ridged code of conduct dictating how you and others should behave. (Women are the emotional ones.)
Shoulds
The skills where you learn practicing acceptance in the moment.
Walking the middle path.
The stage in which people are aware that a problem exists and are seriously thinking about overcoming it but have not yet made a commitment to take action.
Contemplation Stage
This boundary helps you put limits in place on the energy and emotions you give and receive in a relationship. They can apply to romantic relationships as well as platonic, familial, and work-based ones.
Emotional Boundaries
Thinking Report - Part Two
List every thought you had
Thoughts
You label your self or others negatively (I am dumb)
Labeling
Reducing Emotional intensity (ABC/PLEASE rule)
Emotional Regulation Skills
People in this stage tend to remind themselves of how much progress they have made. People in this stage constantly reformulate the rules of their lives and are acquiring new skills to deal with life and avoid relapse.
Maintenance
This boundary refers to personal space and physical touch. Healthy boundaries include an awareness of what's appropriate, and what's not, in various settings and types of relationships (hug, shake hands, or kiss?).
Physical Boundaries
Thinking Report - Part 3
List all the feelings you can remeber
Feeling
You make assumptions about what others are thinking. (They are whispering they must be talking about me).
Mind-Reading
Reducing Impulsive Behaviors During a Distressful Situation.
Distress Tolerance Skills
People have made a commitment to make a change. Their motivation for changing is reflected by statements such as: “I've got to do something about this — this is serious. Something has to change. What can I do?” This is sort of a research phase.
Preparation Stage
Limits we set around how we spend our time. This is a big one, and something that's especially difficult for many of us. (“This is my time for therapy, so please don't message me or schedule anything.” “It's OK if you visit, but you'll need to leave before dinner so I can have time with my family.”)
Time Boundaries
Thinking Report - Part 4
Remember rules, principles, and values involved.
Attitudes and Beliefs
You see things as absolutes, no grey areas.
All-or-nothing thinking
Setting boundaries or expressing needs
Interpersonal Effectiveness Skills
People are not thinking seriously about changing and are not interested in any kind of help. People in this stage tend to defend their current bad habit(s) and do not feel it is a problem.
Pre-contemplation
This boundary refers to money and possessions. Healthy boundaries involve setting limits on what you will share, and with whom.
Material Boundaries
Name all the steps.
Situation, Thoughts, Feelings, and Attitudes and Beliefs.