CONFLICT
Is conflict normal in relationships?
Yes. Differences between two people means there are things you can learn from each other
What are coping skills?
Strategies we use to manage feelings and handle stress
What are the 4 teachings of the Medicine Wheel?
Spiritual
Mental
Physical
Emotional
What is a trigger?
A stress response to a situation.
What are 5 types of relationships?
-Family relationships
-Friendships
-Dating
-Acquaintances
-School/work
How do you tell a big problem from a small problem?
With a big problem you will need the help of others. A small problem can be resolved on its on by picking a good coping skill.
We are not born learning how to cope. We need to learn these skills to help us get through challenging situations.
What zone are you in when you feel stressed?
Yellow Zone
What is a glimmer?
Moments in your day that make you feel happy
What are different forms of communication?
-Verbal
-Non verbal
-Body language
-Online/texting
What are unhealthy ways of dealing with conflict?
-Not caring about the other persons point of view
-Holding a grudge
-Shouting, name calling, and getting very angry
-Not being able to compromis
-Giving up on something that is important to you
What are unhealthy ways of coping?
-Verbal or physical aggression
-Self-harm
-Substance or drug use
-Avoiding problems or denial of emotions
-Spreading rumours
-Withdrawal from family and friends
What is asking someone "are you okay?" important?
It shows the person you care about them
What are the three responses on how our body may react to stressful situations?
Fight, flight, or freeze
What is consent?
Permission for something to happen
What are healthy ways of dealing with conflict?
-Caring about the other persons point of view
-Using a calm and assertive voice to express how you feel
-Not taking things too personally
-Learning to forgive
-Being about to compromise and find solutions that work for everyone
What are healthy ways of coping?
-Check in with your family
-Deep breathing
-Talk to someone you trust
-Get active
-Listen to music
-Draw
What are examples of unhelpful thinking styles?
-Black and white thinking
-Always focusing on the negative
-Grudges
-Labelling an Catastrophizing
-Personalization
-Should/shouldn't statements
-Mind reading
What is self regulation?
The ability to understand and manage your behaviour and your reactions to feelings and things happening around you.
Healthy: respects boundaries, listen to you, honesty, equality, have fun together, supporting, trust, and accepting
Unhealthy: lack of boundaries, dishonesty, makes you feel unsafe, makes fun of you, pressure, controlling
What are the 5 conflict management styles?
Avoidance (turtle)
Competitive (shark)
Accomodation (teddy bear)
Compromise (fox)
Collaborating (owl)
What are examples of things you can control in your life?
-The boundaries you set
-What you think about yourself
-What you choose to say to others
-How you react to others
-What you do with your time
What are the 5 stages of grief
1. Denial
2. Anger
3. Bargaining
4. Depression
5. Acceptance
What can activate glimmers?
-Smells
-Nature
-Pets
-Cuddles
-Sounds
-Doodling
What is respect?
Showing respect means that you accept somebody for who they are, even when they're different from you or you don't agree with them. Respect in your relationships builds feelings of trust, safety, and wellbeing.