What are the two parts of the brain referred to in the book?
Upstairs brain and downstairs brain
What does “connect before you redirect” mean?
Offer empathy before correction to calm the brain
What does “discipline” mean according to the book?
To teach
What is a “time-in”?
A moment to connect and help the child regulate emotions, instead of isolation
Your child throws a toy in frustration. What’s your first step using No-Drama Discipline?
Connect with empathy before redirecting
Which part of the brain controls logic and decision-making?
Upstairs brain
Why is connection important before discipline?
It helps the child feel safe and ready to listen
What is a key difference between discipline and punishment?
Discipline teaches, punishment causes pain or fear
What is the “name it to tame it” strategy?
Helping a child label their feelings to calm down
A child screams at bedtime. How might you respond with connection first?
Validate their feelings, then calmly set a limit
Why do children “flip their lid”? (What part of the brain takes control?)
Their downstairs brain takes over when overwhelmed
Give one phrase a parent might say to connect in a tough moment.
“I can see you’re really upset. I’m here.”
Why is punishment less effective long-term?
It doesn’t teach new behavior or build connection
Why should parents be aware of their own emotional state?
Because calm parents help children regulate
A toddler hits their sibling. How do you use discipline to teach, not punish?
Help them calm down, then talk about kind hands
True or False: Discipline helps build the brain over time.
True.
What does connection do to the child’s emotional state?
Calms their nervous system
Give an example of punishment and an alternative discipline strategy.
Any answer is correct!
Name one tool that helps children reflect on their behavior.
Asking questions like “What was going on?”
What do you say to a child who says, “You never listen to me!”?
Reflect and validate their feeling. Invite a respectful conversation where the child feels heard.
What’s the goal of integrating the brain during discipline?
To connect emotion with reason so the child can learn and grow
What is the long-term benefit of using connection first?
Builds trust and teaches emotional regulation
How does the book suggest we correct misbehavior?
With empathy, connection, and teaching
What’s the purpose of creating a “teachable moment”?
Help the child learn what to do differently next time
You’re losing patience. What should you do before disciplining?
Take a breath and calm yourself first