TC Rules
This rule is also known as the "Get Over It" rule
Despite extensive injuries they caused to others, the person refuses to attribute the injuries to themselves. In the event that they are held accountable, they see themselves as the injured party.
What is Failure to Consider Injury to Others
Must, should, ought to, have to-anything implied as definite.
What is Absolutes
Introducing subjects that are totally irrelevant to the treatment issue at hand is the most common form of diversion used by individuals in a treatment setting. Any other subject that distracts the change agent from addressing their critical thinking will be discussed, including sports, politics, and news..
What is Diversion; Lying, Vagueness, Silence, Minimization, Misunderstanding, Assent, and Attempting to Confuse.
Think about projects that you have begun and thrown up your hands and discussed or broken what you were working on cursing and yelling because part a didn't fit into Part B the way you thought it should have. Or consider a relationship in which you've been involved that hasn't been a perfect match you've been looking for and how angry you have become when the relationship collapses. you probably have been working at controlling the relationship and the other person resists there is an.
What is the relationship between anger and perfectionism
It is expected that you will not be sleeping between these hours.
What is 7:40 AM to 4:40 PM
In spite of having a great deal of sexual experience, he or she does not seem to be gratified sexually or competent in performance. The acquisition of a partner is viewed as a possession, and conquest is essential.
What is Sexuality
A question or statement that you already know the answer to, or do not need/except an answer for.
What is Rhetorical
In the case of a person who starts showing up late for scheduled appointments, and then misses them altogether, and who has no valid explanation for these actions, a change agent can be fairly certain that he is sliding back into old behaviors, or he is doing something irresponsible besides missing the appointments.
What is Tardiness and Missing Appointments
Rather than to show how frightened they are it is easier to show how angry they are and to stay in a position they can proceed as powerful.
What is the relationships between fear and anger
These are considered what kinds of rules:
No racial, ethnic, sexual or gender slurs
Honest and sincere participation om required in all TC activities
No whining or complaining
What is Major House Rules
A person's personality can be described in this way. They undergo radical changes in their thinking within a short period of time. A pattern exists where people state things and then change their minds. Commitments will be made with great sincerity and feeling, but broken within an hour. Despite loving their children very much, they may use their food money to buy drugs.
What is Fragmentation
When you feel controlled externally, you see yourself as a helpless victim of fate. The fallacy of internal control has you responsible for the pain and happiness of everyone around you.
What is Control Fallacies
In this strategy, the person attempts to put the change agent on the defensive, or instill fear in him or her. The change agent will be criticized for every little flaw he has. There will be sarcasm and derogatory remarks. The abusers will become blatantly abusive and even threaten violence if they feel they can get away with it.
What is Attack
You might say to yourself "are all the people mainly concerned with themselves?”
What is Self - Centeredness
These are Considered what kind of Rules
No rude gestures or comments
Display a positive attitude
Be PUNCTUAL to all meetings, work, and functions.
What is House Rules
A feeling of absolute worthlessness, hopelessness and futility that arises periodically from the belief that one is nothing at all
What is Zero state
you expect others to change to suit your needs if you force or pressure them enough. An externally driven person depends on others for their own self-esteem and happiness.
What is Fallacy of Change
Using this tactic, the individual only pays attention to the things that will advance their specific goals and objectives. As long as things support their agendas, prejudgments, and opinions, the person will pay attention to them. The rest will be totally ignored, claiming ignorance. Feedback or criticism may be interpreted by them as agreement with their position, when in fact it is quite the opposite. Essentially, they only hear what they want to hear from a statement.
What is Selective Attention and Perception
Generating guilt or shame in others, in order to insure that they feel ashamed and using that as a method to insure their silence. It is also used to create fear of what will happen if they “tell”, which perpetuates the fear of physical violence, creating uncertainty through manipulation. This undermines the self worth of the victim.
What is Power and Control Emotionally
Thesw are the Cardinal Rules
What is
NO VIOLENCE OR THREATS OF VIOLENCE
NO VIOLATION CONFIDENTIALITY
NO DRUGS, ALCOHOL OR ABUSE OF MEDICATION
NO SEXUALLY ACTING OUT
It is usually the sense of conscience that deters people from committing criminal acts; they want to change sentimental religious and humanitarian reasons as well as their fear of getting caught. Through corrosion and cutting off, the person overcomes these deters.
What is Corrosion and Cut Off
You expect all of your sacrifices and self denial to pay off as if there was one keeping score. If immediate reward doesn’t come to you, you feel bitter and resentful.
What is Heaven's Reward Fallacy
In order to feed the change agent what they want to hear, the person carefully determines the change agent's orientation. In order to gain a personal advantage, one defrauds others to gain power and control.
What is Feeding the Change Agent What The Person Thinks They Want to Hear
Examples:
“You made me angry! You know how I get when you make me mad.”
“If you didn't make me mad, then I wouldn't hurt you”
“Just do as I say I don't want to hurt you”
“Please don't make me hurt you”
What is Anger power and control