Reframe It
“They did that on purpose.”
Maybe it was an accident
You feel really mad in class.
👉 What’s one coping skill you can use?
Deep breathing / pause / take a break
Two classmates are talking.
👉 What’s a good way to join?
Wait, listen, then join
What does your body look like when you’re listening?
Answer: Eyes on speaker, body still, facing them
Someone cuts in line
👉 What do you say?
Answer: Calm, respectful response
“This is so unfair.”
I don’t like this, but I can handle it
Your face is getting hot and you feel tense
👉 What is your body telling you?
You’re getting upset / warning sign
What is something you can SAY to join a conversation?
“Can I play?” / “What are you talking about?”
Name one way to show you’re listening without talking
Answer: Nodding / eye contact
A kid keeps bothering you
Ask them to stop calmly
“They’re so annoying.”
They’re bothering me, but I can stay calm
You want to yell at someone.
👉 What should you do BEFORE talking?
Pause / calm down
What should you NOT do when joining?
Answer: Interrupt / yell over others
Someone is talking and you interrupt
👉 What should you do?
Answer: Stop and let them finish
You’re in a group and no one is talking to you
Try to join / ask a question
“I’m not doing this.”
I don’t want to, but I can try
You’re overwhelmed and don’t want to talk.
👉 What’s a good coping response?
Ask for space / take a break
You don’t know what they’re talking about.
👉 What can you do?
Answer: Ask a question
What is one thing you can SAY to show you’re listening?
“Okay” / “I get it” / repeat back
You’re mad and might say something mean
Pause / coping skill
“This always happens to me.”
Sometimes this happens, not always
You tried a coping skill but you’re still upset.
👉 What can you do next?
Try another skill / ask for help
You try to join and they ignore you.
👉 What’s a good next step?
Answer: Try again calmly / find another group
Why is listening important?
Helps others feel heard / understand better
You already said something rude
Apologize / fix it