Relationships
What are 3 things that you would expect from a healthy friendship?
Kindness
Loyalty
Trustworthiness
Understanding
Name three emotions other than happy, sad, and angry.
Anxious
Scared
Excited
Disgusted
What are the three styles of communication we learned about?
Aggressive, assertive, and passive
What is the purpose of worry (i.e., why do we feel worry)? Can it be helpful?
What are the three roles in a bullying situation?
The person doing the bullying, the person being bullied, and the bystander(s)/witness(es).
Someone you know of (their name, their class/grade) but don't know much about.
e.g., a friend of a friend
You're about to present in front of the class and your heart is racing, your palms are sweaty, and your stomach feels tight.
What emotion might you be feeling, and what is one strategy you could use to manage it?
Nervous/anxious
Strategies could include deep breathing, positive self-talk, grounding, etc.
What style of communication is someone using if they say "Whatever, it's fine" when it's clearly not fine?
Passive
What are some things we can do manage stress?
Go outside, be with others, read, listen to music, exercise, play with pets, etc.
What is the difference between a conflict and bullying?
A conflict is a disagreement between people with equal power.
Bullying involves a power imbalance, is intentional, targeted, and happens more than once.
What should you keep in mind when you are trying to have a conversation with someone?
At least three of the following:
- Make eye contact
- Face the person you're speaking to
- Ask questions
- Making connecting comments
- Try to stay on topic
Your friend got picked for the team and you didn't. You feel jealous but also happy for them at the same time. Is it possible to feel two emotions at once, and what could you do in that moment?
Yes, you can feel more than one emotion at the same time.
You could congratulate your friend while also acknowledging to yourself that you're disappointed and using a strategy to deal with your disappointment.
What are the parts of an I-Message?
"I feel ___ when ___ because ___" (and optionally, "I need/I would like ___").
What should we do when we are not able to handle stress on our own?
Speak with a trusted friend or adult
Give two examples of bullying that don't involve physical contact.
Any two of: spreading rumours, leaving someone out on purpose, cyberbullying, name-calling, making fun of someone repeatedly, threatening someone, etc.
What are 2 things you could do to strengthen your relationship with someone?
Spend more time with them
Be open to share more about yourself
Invite them to join you in activities
Ask them to share more about themselves
What does it mean to "regulate" your emotions?
Managing or controlling how you respond to your emotions, not getting rid of the feeling, but choosing what you do with it.
Turn this aggressive statement into an assertive I-Message: "You're so annoying, stop taking my stuff!"
"I feel frustrated when you take my things without asking because I don't know where they are. I'd like you to ask me first."
What are the three "unhelpful" ways that people deal with stress?
Procrastination
Aggression
Withdrawal
What should a bystander do when they witness bullying?
A bystander might tell a trusted adult, check in on the person being bullied afterward, or include them so they're not alone. They don't have to confront the person doing the bullying directly to make a difference.
When might you choose to tell someone about a secret that your friend shares?
When they are in danger or someone else might get hurt
What's the difference between a thought, a feeling, and a behaviour?
Thoughts = what we tell ourselves about a situation or what we assume about a situation
Feelings = what we experience internally
Behaviour = what we choose to do as a result of our thoughts and feelings
Your group member hasn't been doing their share of the project. Give an example of how you might respond using each of the three communication styles.
Passive: Say nothing and do their work for them.
Aggressive: Yell at them or complain about them to everyone else.
Assertive: Talk to them directly using an I-Message, like "I feel stressed when the work isn't split evenly because it's a lot for one person. Can we figure out how to divide it up?"
Your friend tells you they've been feeling really stressed and worried lately but they don't want to talk to any adults about it.
What would you say to them, and why is it important to involve a trusted adult when worries feel too big to handle on your own?
You should let them know that you care about them and are here to listen. You can tell them that talking to a trusted adult isn't going to get them trouble and that it's important because adults can help in ways friends can't, and some worries are too big for kids to carry alone.
Your two friends are in a conflict and both come to you to pick a side. Using what you've learned about communication and conflict resolution, what would you do?
Avoid picking sides, listen to both friends, encourage them to talk to each other directly using assertive communication (like I-Messages), and suggest they focus on the problem rather than blaming each other. If it's too big to resolve, involve a trusted adult.