Helping VS Enabling
You drive someone to a recovery meeting they asked to go to. Helping or enabling?
Helping
Double Jep - Name one simple way to say "no" without things escalating.
"I can't do that" "That doesn't work for me" "I hope you can figure it out but I cannot help you right now"
You feel responsible for someone else's relapse. Whats the most accurate statement?
You are not responsible for another adult's choices.
What's the pattern called when someone feels needed because others are always in crisis?
Rescuer
What makes support unhealthy even if the intention is good?
It removes responsibility from the other person
You give someone money after they ask for it, they tend to ask a lot. But you know them well and they need help. Helping or enabling?
Enabling (pattern of rescuing)
What's something people often feel after setting a boundary for the first time?
Guilt, Anxiety, Worry
Why do people in co-dependent patterns often confuse guilt with responsibility?
Because caring feelings get mistaken for control/ownership.
Why can "helping" someone repeatedly feel rewarding even when it doesn't change anything?
Reinforces identity, connection in some way, control, feeling needed.
Double Jep You care about someone but choose not to get involved in their crisis. What skill is this?
Healthy boundaries.
You call someone's work to lie about why they missed their shif,t but they really need to keep this job and you don't want them to loose it either.
Enabling
What's the difference between a boundary and a punishment?
Boundary protects self; punishment controls behavior.
Catastrophizing OR Over-responsibility.
Someone says "I can't handle things without you" What does this often reflect>
Codependency
Whats the difference between being supportive and being responsible?
Support = Encouragement
Responsibility = Doing it for them
True or false: If a boundary upsets someone, it's a sign you shouldn't set it with them.
False
What happens to your ability to support others when guilt becomes your main motivator?
Burnout, resentment builds.
What is a long-term risk of always stepping in before consequences hit?
Maintains cycle of dependency and reduces accountability.
Someone says they dont want help, but you step in anyway because you believe you know what's best for them and you dont trust their choices.
Controlling
You set a boundary, but you keep over-explaining it, defending it or feeling the need to convince the other person its reasonable.
Low-Self worth
double jep - True or False You: People pleasing is healthy
False
True or false - Supporting someone sometimes means letting them figure it out on their own
True