Trust
Three things that build trust
Honesty, consistancy, reliability bonus point for actions
The purpose of boundaries is to protect this.
Your emotional, mental, physical, sexual, financial, spacial wellbeing. *Other answers potentially accepted*
Why can new romantic relationships be risky for someone early in recovery?
Emotions are triggers. Relationships are emotional. And therefore, relationships can be a high-risk trigger for relapse. *Similar responses accepted at discretion of Leader*
Why can open communication be tricky
Communication can be a source of fear, or even trauma
Mutual Support is what
Showing up for each other
If someone says they'll call at 7:00pm and consistancly follows through, they're showing this.
Reliable
How does addiction tend to impact boundaries
makes them blurry or feel like they don't exist at all, or make us feel like we aren't allowed to have them in the first place
We should not avoid love or connection HOWEVER we need to learn how to _____________
DAILY DOUBLE: Manage the emotional intensity that comes with connection and relationships.
If we can't express our needs, we get _____
resentful
Mutual support reminds us that
We are not alone, we are not broken, we are not the only ones trying to rebuild something.
What do you have to do first before we can expect others to trust us?
Trust ourselves
Boundaries aren't just about saying "no" they're about ___________
Knowing yourself well enough to recognize, what feels right, what doesn't and then having the courage to protect that
You can learn to ______ instead of react
pause
What's risker than being open and honest
Saying nothing, holding it in, building resentment, pretending everything is fine
True or False: Someone who is BRAND NEW to recovery has something to offer
TRUE
Building trust from others takes
Patience
When someone ignores your boundaries, punishes you for them, or pressures you, that is not a _____________
Healthy Relationship, that is a boundary violation, and not something we need to tolerate anymore
You can learn to ______ a feeling without pushing it down and hoping it goes away and doesn't come back
name/identify
Everytime you speak up for yourself, you send yourself what message?
What I have to say matters, I matter
Someone says "If you loved me, you'd..." What relationship tactic is this?
DAILY DOUBLE: guilt/emotional manipulation
I said this morning that "trust can be rebuilt, but it doesn't start with our outer relationships, it starts _____"
Every time you set a boundary and stick to it, you're telling yourself __________
I matter, my needs matter
The more you understand your emotional world, the more ________
Power/ability you have to protect your recovery
If we can't express openly our boundaries, we get ____
Hurt
Shared goals create _____
Alignment