Self-Talk
These are the two types of self-talk.
Positive and Negative
True or False:
It is important to dwell on what I do not have or the looks I am unable to attain.
FALSE
Focusing on what we do not have can make us feel bad and decrease our self-worth, or self-esteem. Focusing on the positives and what we are grateful for can help improve our self-esteem and make us feel good about ourselves.
True or False:
It is better to be popular with lots of ok friends than have a small group of super genuine friends.
False!
Having more friends does not always make us happier.
This term describes the feeling that you need to give into something to fit in with a group of peers to be accepted
Peer Pressure
Name one reason social media may decrease our self-esteem
Impossible beauty standards, constant exposure to "perfect" thin body, body comparing
This type of self-walk helps to improve our self-esteem.
Positive Self-Talk
True or False:
My interests and strengths are what make up my positive identity, not my looks or appearance.
True
Determine if the below example would be a genuine friend or not:
Anna asks Destinee if she wants to come over and Destinee politely declines because she has a test to study for. Anna gets mad at Destinee and tells her she's a loser.
Not a genuine friend!
Being assertive and saying no can help us in which way
Setting Boundaries
Avoiding uncomfortable situations
Helping to maintain our self-esteem and positive identity
True or False: The people we see in social media are living perfect lives
FALSE
We are only seeing a glimpse of their life. They may be going through struggles we cannot see
Reframe the following negative self-talk:
"No one has liked my new profile picture. I am so ugly and everyone hates me."
Answers vary
Example: "My friends may be busy today and have not seen my picture. A profile picture does not determine my self-worth. I have friends who care about me, and not just what I look like."
True or false:
Reminding myself of my strengths and what I am good at can help improve my self-esteem.
TRUE!
Name two qualities in a friend that fill our buckets
Answers vary
This is a technique we can use when we are in a situation where we want to be assertive and say no
Stop and Breathe
You find yourself scrolling through a celebrity or influencer's TikTok and constantly comparing your looks to theirs. What is a way you can critically question their looks to help maintain your self-esteem?
They do not look that perfect because perfection does not exist. Celebrities and influencers can afford expensive makeup, a makeup artist, and good photoshop to make them look as perfect as possible.