Calming Down
What are the three calming down steps?
Stop, Name your feeling, Calm down
What are the four problem solving steps? (STEP)
Say the problem
Think of solutions
Explore consequences
Pick the best solution
What does it mean to be assertive?
Telling someone what you need or want in a respectful, confident way (eye contact, standing up straight, confident voice, respectful words).
___________ is feeling or understanding what someone else is feeling.
Empathy
How do recognize bullying?
(Hint: MOOO)
The behavior has to be mean, ongoing, on purpose and one-sided.
Name two strong feelings.
Frustrated, angry, mad, sad, nervous, excited, worried, etc.
If you are mad at someone because of a problem, what should you do BEFORE using the problem solving steps?
Calm down! (use the calming down steps)
You were having trouble paying attention when your teacher explained what to do for a social studies project. Now everyone is getting started, and you don't know what you're supposed to do. The best thing to do is: a. Just do the project the way you want b. Assertively ask your teacher how to do it c. Read a book instead d. Wait quietly at your desk and hope someone comes to help you
b. Assertively ask your teacher how to do it.
Where do you look to find clues about how someone else is feeling?
Their face and body
Everyday when Billy is walking home from school, Charlie walks behind him and calls him names. When Billy walks faster, Charlie runs ahead and yells mean things back at him.
Is this bullying? Why or why not?
Yes because Charlie is being mean on purpose. It is ongoing and one-sided.
Name two of the three examples of the calming down step.
Breathe, count, use positive self-talk
Name two blaming words that you should not use when trying to say the problem.
Never, always, made me, on purpose, your fault, etc.
What does it mean to be passive?
Being passive is when someone shows less confidence or seems shy or nervous (no eye contact, shy voice, slouched body language).
It's not bad to be passive, but people may not listen to you if you speak in a passive way.
You are talking to a classmate in the hallway before school. She just had an argument with her best friend. You are listening to her as she tells you how sad she is feeling. You understand how she feels. You've felt sad after having an argument with a friend too.
You are:
a. Feeling happy that you are not her
b. Having empathy for her
c. Thinking she will not have many friends
b. Having empathy for her
Name one thing that you should do if you recognize that bullying is happening to you.
Report the bullying to an adult.
You can also assertively tell the bully to stop. An adult can help you with this.