Confidence Boosters
What is self-esteem?
How do you feel about yourself?
What are 2 qualities of a good friendship?
Your friend is kind, honest, trusting, has fun with you, includes you, and listens to you.
True or False? Is it okay to gossip
False..It is something that a lot of people do but it is rarely helpful or kind, makes problems bigger/worse
Name one feeling kids might have about going to the next grade/middle school?
nervous, excited, scared, curious, worried, happy.
It means you feel accepted/part of a group, valued.
True or false, your worth depends on how many friends or followers you have?
False..your worth is not based on how many friends you have
True or False? Friends sometimes can hurt your feelings?
True, even friends can disappoint you, make you feel bad/sad sometimes. If this happens all the time, you should reexamine your friendship
Someone says, "Don't tell anyone but..and starts telling people the information when you are there.What is the next smart choice?
Don't join in/repeat the information, change the subject, walk away, tell an adult if an unsafe topic
True or False, is it normal to feel nervous about changes even if they are good?
True, any type of change whether good or bad can be scary
True or False, everyone feels left out sometimes
True
Name 1 thing you can say to yourself when you feel left out or feel bad about yourself?
I am a good kid/student/friend, I am doing the best I can, I deserve to feel good, I can handle things, I am getting better, etc
Your friends are hanging out without you(playdates afterschool and at recess), and you feel hurt. What is the BEST thing to do first?
Stay calm, avoid blaming/assuming they are leaving you out, talk calmly, ask respectful questions
Why do rumors hurt people?
They can be untrue, can cause people to believe things about them, make people feel bad/excluded, create conflict
What is one strategy you can use when you are nervous about something new?
Write down your worries, talk to someone, ask questions, use a fidget/take a walk, get a drink of water
Name 1 thing you can do to make others feel included?
Invite them to play, say hi to them, ask a question, say something kind/compliment to them, smile,
A classmate gets picked for something you wanted? (classjob, helper, etc) What is a healthy response?
Can be disappointed but don't put yourself or others down, try again another time, congratulate your classmate, remember your strengths
What could you say if you feel ignored by friends?
I'm feeling left out lately, I miss spending time with you, can I join you at recess/lunch today? Are you ok? Can we talk?
Stop/don't assume they are talking about you, don't assume that it is bad, ask calmly, ignore, spend time with friends/others who you enjoy
You are worried you will not fit in at the new school/activity/grade ..What can you do?
join activities, find people who you have things in common with, listen/pay attention, use calming skills, say hi to people
What are some signs that someone accepts you as you are?
They listen, hang out with you, ask questions, kind, comfortable, trust them/trust you.
Why is comparing yourself to others often unhelpful?
Everyone is unique, grow/develop at different rates, which makes you feel bad to compare yourself
Why is it important to have friendships where you can be yourself?
It makes you feel safe, listened to, and confident, trusting
What is the difference between solving a problem and creating drama?
Solving the problem is direct/having to do with the person you are having an issue with, focus on solutions
How does change help us?
learn new things(skills), meet people, discover something about yourself
It wouldn't be real, you would feel uncomfortable, lying, not built on trust.