Time Place and Audience
Your teacher is reviewing the agenda for the class and you want to talk to your friend about what happened during brunch. Is it the right time? Is it the right place? Is it the right audience?
Time: No-its not the right time to talk when your teacher is getting class started
Place: maybe-it depends on the conversation. Might be better to talk after class
Audience: yes-its appropriate to talk to your friend about something that happened at brunch
You’re waiting in the lunch line and you’re trying to get your lunch so that you can make it to the computer club before they close the doors. Someone cuts in front of you and you’re really upset.What is one sensation you might feel in your body? What emotion might you be feeling
fast heart rate, red cheeks. Frustrated or angry
You are asked to turn to a partner and briefly discuss the article the class just read. Your partner starts by saying, “I’ll go first since you take so long to answer questions”. Is that “THINK”?
No! It may be True, but it is not Helpful, Inspiring, Necessary, or Kind.
You're working on a new social studies project with three other classmates. You do most of the talking because you have the most interesting ideas. What are others thinking? What are others feeling?
Thinking: What a drag, I have to be partners with a know it all!
Feeling: Annoyed
The person sitting next to you forgot to put on deodorant today. They had PE the period before this one and now they smell. What is the problem? What’s one solution to solve the problem?
Problem: person sitting next to you smells
Solution: ask teacher if you could move seats
Your teacher uses GoGuardian to close your tabs when you’re off task in class. You’re upset and say. “Bruh! Why’d you do that?” Is it the right time? Is it the right place? Is it the right audience?
This one is really about language you should use with an adult. It's not the right audience to call your teacher "Bruh"
You have a crush on a girl in your class, and you really want to spend time with her. At lunch you wait for her where she normally eats and when you talk to her, she asks if you’d like to have lunch together.
What’s a sensation you might be feeling? What’s an emotion you might be feeling?
sweaty palms, butterflies in your stomach
excited and/or nervous
At lunch you and a group of friends are eating together at a table. One of them is chewing with his mouth open and you can see his food. You say aloud, “EW! You’re so gross when you eat!”. It is “THINK”?
No! (but said differently, maybe). Said in private without words that will make them feel bad, it may be True, Helpful, & Kind. Not really Inspiring or Necessary but it might be ok.
Your teacher asks you to check Schoology and fill out your Binder Reminder. You noticed you got a low score on a quiz so you ignore the instruction and retake the quiz. What is the teacher thinking? What is the teacher feeling?
Thinking: Ugh, Johnny ignored my instructions AGAIN!
Feeling: Annoyed
Charli XCX's new album was the inspiration for what aesthetic in 2024?
Brat summer
Your class is sharing about weekends. You share all of the terrible things that happened and explain why they were so bad. Is it the right time? Is it the right place? Is it the right audience?
Not really. When sharing in front of the whole class, it might make some people uncomfortable if you share personal information. Weekend share outs should generally be short and positive.
The boy sitting next to you in class keeps coughing without covering his mouth and you really don't want to get sick. You tell him to cover his mouth but he doesn't. What’s a sensation you might be feeling? What’s an emotion you might be feeling?
tense muscles, red/hot face, tightness in chest or fast heart rate; annoyed
You hate Social Studies because the teacher always gives out worksheets. It’s SO boring! After passing out worksheets (again!) one of your classmates says to himself but loud enough to hear, “Not another worksheet! Ugh, this is so boring!” Is it “THINK”?
Nope. It may be True, but it is not Helpful, Inspiring, Necessary, or Kind.
What album won "Album of the Year" in 2024?
Midnights by Taylor Swift
Your teacher asks you to fill out your binder reminder, but you don't want to do it. You feel your energy start to amp up and your face gets red and hot. You cannot seem to calm down and how she’s standing at your desk waiting for you to do it.
Problem: You are feeling amped up about something you need to do
Solution: Use a coping strategy to regulate your energy
At the end of class, two of your classmates are engrossed in a conversation about something that happened out at lunch. You go up and ask them what their favorite ride at Disneyland is. Is it the right time? Is it the right place? Is it the right audience?
Time:No-while it might be appropriate to talk to a classmate at the end of class, its not appropriate to interrupt when two people are having a conversation
Place: Yes
Audience: Yes
You're working hard on a worksheet in class. The teacher tells the class that she will move on to the next topic in 5 mins. You know that you will never finish in 5 mins, and you really want to do your best work. You start to feel hot. What’s a sensation you might be feeling? What’s an emotion you might be feeling?
sweaty palms, tense muscles, trouble concentrating; worried/anxious
You notice that the boy sitting next to you is getting frustrated while trying to do a Math problem. You whisper, “I had a hard time on that one too. It’s really difficult! Do you need any help?”. Is it “THINK”?
Yes! Even if it’s not 100% True for you (maybe the problem wasn’t that hard!), showing empathy is definitely Helpful, Inspiring, Necessary (if you want others to see you as someone who is understanding), and Kind.
When one of your classmates asks a question during a science lesson, you yell, "You don't know THAT?!" What is your classmate thinking? What are they feeling?
Thinking: They're so mean. Now I feel stupid
Feeling: hurt, confused, embarrassed
It’s independent work time and you were instructed to check Schoology and then start on one of the assignments. As you are checking Schoology you can’t stop thinking about a cool video you watched on YouTube last night. You have a strong urge to open a new tab and take a quick peek at the video.
What is the problem? What’s one solution to solve the problem?
Problem:you're experiencing a conflict between your assigned task (checking Schoology and starting independent work) and a strong urge to engage in a distracting activity (watching a YouTube video).
Solution: Set a specific, limited time for later: "I will watch it after I finish the first two problems of my assignment." Or "I will watch it after this school day is over."
At the start of class, your teacher has an instruction for everyone posted on the board. You go up to your teacher and start talking about your weekend. Is it the right time? Is it the right place? Is it the right audience?
Time: No
Place: Yes
Audience: Yes
You were invited to a birthday party for a boy in class that you’ve really wanted to become friends with. You’re really looking forward to the party, but also hope you don’t say or do anything embarrassing. What’s a sensation you might be feeling? What’s an emotion you might be feeling?
butterflies in stomach, sweaty palms, fast heart rate; excited/nervous
Rachael Gunn, aka Raygun, went viral for her performance in what Olympic sport category?
breakdancing
Your teacher tells the class to get out a piece of paper and list numbers 1-10. You sit quietly and do nothing. What are others thinking? What are others feeling?
Thinking: Is this going to slow us down? I wish they would just do the work
Feeling: annoyed, impatient, frustrated
One of your friends tells you that a classmate is spreading a rumor about you that isn't true. You ask your friend for advice, and they say that you should start a rumor about them to get back at them. Your friend is really pressuring you to do this because its the only way that you'll get them to stop spreading rumors. What is the problem(s)? What is a solution?
Problem:
1. someone spread a rumor about you 2. your friend is pressuring you to spread a rumor in retaliation.
Solution: Stop and think before you make an impulsive decision. Think, what might happen if you spread a rumor in return? Would that make your problem go away, or get worse? Talk with another friend, or a trusted adult.