Peer Pressure
What is peer pressure?
When people your age try to get you to do something, even if you don’t want to do it.
What is an personal boundary?
A rule you make to stay safe and feel good
True or False:
Conflict is normal in all relationships, but what matters is how we handle it.
True
What are 3 traits of an unhealthy relationship?
talks over you, blames you for everything, is bossy all the time, leaves you out, calls you names, talks behind your back
What is empathy?
Understanding how someone else feels
What is an example of positive peer pressure?
Your classmate says “Come and help me clean up after lunch!”
When should you set a boundary?
When someone's actions make you feel uncomfortable
What are 3 examples of bad communication?
interrupting; yelling; blaming; not listening; silent treatment; rude language
Name 3 ways you can show you are a good listener
Thinking about what the other person is saying and replying thoughtfully, making eye contact, letting the other person finish speaking
What does it mean to "put yourself in someone else’s shoes"?
Imagine how the other person feels
What are 2 different kinds of negative peer pressure? Explain how they work
Direct Peer Pressure: When someone clearly tells or dares you to do something.
Indirect Peer Pressure: When you feel pressure to do something just by watching others.
Social Peer Pressure: When you feel like you have to do something to stay in the group or avoid being left out.
What are two ways to show a boundary?
Stay "stop" or "no" respectfully but firmly. You can also calmly explain the situation to the other person.
What are 3 examples of good communication?
making eye contact, speaking calmly, listening; asking questions; showing empathy; using kind words
What are 3 examples of a green flag?
Listens and respects your feelings
Apologizes and takes responsibility
Respects boundaries
Kind and respectful to others
Consistent and reliable
Makes you feel safe and comfortable
Trusts you and respects your privacy
Celebrates your successes
Name 2 ways you can show empathy if a friend is sad
Listen to them carefully and offer support
What can you do if someone interrupts you while you’re explaining your idea.
Calmly tell them that letting others finish speaking shows respect and that you are happy to hear their thoughts once you are finished. Make sure to calmy stand-up for others right to finish speaking too and let everyone have a chance to share their ideas.
What is respect?
Valuing other people and things.
Treating them like they matter.
List 3 ways to deal with conflict in a healthy way
Listening to what the other person has to say
Taking deep breaths before talking
Compromising to find a solution that works for everyone
What is the difference between active listening and passive listening/hearing?
Active listening means you are thinking about what the other person is saying and engaging with it.
Passive listening/hearing is just hearing noises that you don't think about.
Why is empathy important?
It builds strong, caring relationships
Someone dares you to throw something in class to be funny.
Questions:
Is this safe or unsafe peer pressure?
What could happen if you give in?
How can you say “no” in a respectful way?
1. It is unsafe peer pressure
2. The object could hit someone in the eye. Throwing something would disrupt the class. The teacher may report the action to the principal.
3. You could say "No, it's not a good time and place to throw things, but I'm happy to throw snowballs during recess."
Lena’s friend tells her a secret. Lena keeps it private and doesn’t tell anyone, even when others ask.
Discussion Questions:
How is Lena showing trust?
What would happen if she told the secret?
1. She kept the secret
2. She would lose the trust of her friend and damage their friendship.
Tyler makes fun of Carlos’s clothes in front of others. He laughs and says, “I was just joking!” but Carlos looks upset.
Discussion Questions:
Is this a healthy or unhealthy way to treat a friend?
What should Tyler have done instead?
1. Unhealthy
2. If he doesn't have anything nice to say, then he should not say anything. Tyler should respect other people's clothing choices. Tyler could also think about if his joke could offend others before saying it.
Every time Mia joins a game at recess, Jordan tells her there’s no room. But when someone else asks to join, Jordan lets them in.
How is Jordan demonstrating a red flag?
How might Mia feel?
What could Mia or a bystander do?
1. Jordan is excluding Mia.
2. Mia may feel offended or hurt
3. A bystander can talk with Jordan and stand-up for Mia. They could also start a different game with Mia.
Sasha forgot her pencil. Her friend Priya notices and offers to share one with her. Sasha thanks her, and Priya says, “That’s what friends are for.”
Discussion Questions:
How did Priya show kindness and care?
How would Sasha feel in this situation?
1. Priya was kind and thoughtful to Sasha. She showed support and warmth when Sasha needed help.
2. Sasha would feel grateful, supported, happy, and their friendship would develop deeper trust