Empathy
Name 1 thing you might notice about someone who is sad.
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Crying, frown, eyes down, shoulders forward
What is one simple way to calm your body so you can focus on solving a problem or an uncomfortable feeling?
Belly breathing, counting, or positive self-talk
What is a "put-down"?
Name 1 way to calm down BESIDES belly breathing, counting, and positive self-talk.
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Reading, journaling, coloring, drawing, listening to music, exercise, etc.
What do the letters S-T-E-P stand for in the problem-solving steps?
Say the problem
Think of solutions
Explore consequences
Pick the best solution
To recognize how others feel
Put yourself in somebody else's shoes
Why do we practice skills like assertiveness, problem solving, and calming down?
To make the skill stronger so it becomes easier in real life.
Name 2 things you should do when you are being assertive.
Face the person, keep head up and shoulders back, use a calm, firm, clear voice.
Name the 3 steps to the Calm Down approach.
Stop- use your signal
Name your feeling
Calm down
Give 1 safe and respectful solution you could use if your friends are pressuring you to do something that you don't want to do.
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Walk away, say no assertively, suggest something else.
3 ways to tell how someone is feeling.
Facial expressions, body language, tone of voice
List 3 respectful listening behaviors.
Face the person, look at who is talking, don't interrupt, nod/give encouragement, summarize what they said.
When someone keeps putting you down after you asked them to stop, what should you do next? Name one immediate step and one adult-help option.
Immediate: tell them to stop, walk away
Adult-help: tell a trusted adult
List 3 physical signs someone might show when they feel angry or frustrated.
Tense muscles, upset stomach, racing thoughts, fast heart rate, sweating, fidgeting
In a gossip situation, name 2 things a bystander could do to stop the gossip from spreading and why each helps.
Walk away/refuse to listen, say it's not okay to gossip, tell the person it's private, don't repeat it.
Each stop the spread and supports the target.
You see a classmate sitting alone looking upset. List 2 different compassionate actions you could take and explain how each one shows empathy.
Sit with them and ask if they're okay; offer to tell a teacher; help them with a problem. Each shows you noticed and care.
What is compassion and why is it an important skill?
Compassion is a deep awareness of another's suffering coupled with the desire and action to help. To make sure that other's feel appreciated and valued.
In one of the Second Step videos, Diondre is pressure by friends to take money. What is a brief, assertive response Diondre could say that is respectful and firm?
No. I don't want to take that. That's not okay.
You have to present in front of the entire school today. You are feeling very nervous. Describe a short routine using your 3 calm down strategies that you can use to calm your body before you present.
Take 5 deep belly breaths, counting each one. Say, "I can do this. I practiced. I will do my best."
Kids are spreading an untrue rumor about you. List 1 solution and 1 consequence of that solution.
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Talk to the gossiper and tell them to stop. They may stop or they may get defensive.
Explain why predicting how your actions will make someone feel helps you show compassion.
It helps you have empathy for them and act respectfully. Helps you avoid hurting feelings.
Explain how predicting feelings and taking others' perspectives can help you succeed at school.
Predict when people might feel left out
Ask others' ideas so everyone feels heard
Try to think of what happened through their eyes instead of blaming
Describe the "stop signal" and explain how using it helps your brain and body before you respond in a stressful situation.
Stop signal: a word or phrase you say in your head to pause. It helps you slow down so your thinking brain can work.
Explain how the amygdala and the cortex affect your reactions when you have big emotions.
Amygdala: sounds the alarm and reacts quickly without thinking.
Cortex: slows the body down and lets you think things through before responding.
A playground conflict keeps happening during recess. Create a STEP plan you could use to solve the recurring problem. Keep each step short, about a sentence.
S: kids taking all the balls at recess
T: create a schedule taking turns with the balls
E: kids follow the schedule and everyone gets fair time or kids ignore the schedule and don't follow it
P: create a schedule for the balls