Emotion Regulation
What is emotion regulation?
Handling your emotions, controlling your emotions, calming down, taking a pause, regulation techniques, etc.
Conflict...
a) should be avoided
b) is bad
c) is unhealthy
d) is normal
d) is normal
True or False?
Empathy is understanding how someone else feels and putting yourself in their shoes.
True
What does it mean when our downstairs brain is in control?
We feel a big emotion, we feel it in our body, warning signs, we don't have access to our toolkit (empathy, problem solving, learning, focus, creative). etc
What is a habit?
Something you stick to, something that we do without thinking, something we can build, etc.
List one comfortable emotion and one uncomfortable emotion
as long as there is one uncomfortable and one comfortable emotion listed.
True or False?
We should try to avoid conflict
False
John is in their downstairs brain. He lashed out at you when you looked at him.
How can you still show John empathy?
Give him space, let him calm down, ask him what is wrong, tell a teacher, check up on him the next day
If someone's upstairs brain is in control, what would that person look like/be doing?
focused, mature, learning, empathetic, problem solving, calm, happy
Why is it important to build habits?
You become strong minded, become successful, hard things don't feel as hard, work towards a goal, etc.
Deep breathing, muscle squeeze, ABC categories are all examples of...
Emotion regulation techniques, calming tools/strategies
What is perspective taking?
Seeing someone else's side, listening to the other person, putting yourself in someone else's shoes, etc.
If there is a new student in your class tomorrow, using your empathy skills, how might that person be feeling?
Nervous, scared, excited, anxious, lonely, sad, angry, etc.
When we are at school, what part of our brain should we be using?
upstairs brain
When building a NEW habit, why is it important to start small?
It makes it easier for you to start, It's not about rushing, you can always grow your goal, etc.
Name 2 types of warning signs (body signals) you have when you are angry.
Any 2 warning signs accepted
Explain how an I-Statement is used to solve conflicts
I feel ____ when ____ because ____. I need ____.
It helps to express your emotions to the other person and states your needs. You are not pointing the finger or blaming.
What part of our brain do we need to use to have empathy for others?
Upstairs brain
What does it mean to flip your lid?
to go from upstairs brain to downstairs brain, to crash out, to lose control, etc.
Billy's goal is to clean his room. What is one small task he can start with so he doesn't feel overwhelmed?
Any SMALL task, picking up his clothes, throwing away the trash, etc.
Why is it important to handle our emotions as 5th graders (soon to be middle schoolers)?
Problems will feel stronger as we get older, will feel bigger, it helps us get through challenges, we become better friends, students, etc.
Turn this into an I-Statement
You don't care about me, you are rude. You make me so angry when you ignore me when I am trying to talk to you.
I feel (hurt, angry, upset) when (you ignore me when I am trying to talk to you) because (I really wanted to tell you something).
Etc.
Jill is a new student to your class. How can you show your empathy to her?
Introducing yourself, sitting by her, playing with her, etc.
If we are in our downstairs brain, how do we go back to our upstairs brain?
pausing, take a step back, body scan, deep breathing, muscle squeeze, etc.
John is trying to build the habit of cleaning his room everyday, but he is starting to feel like it is taking too long to see progress. What can John tell himself so that he stays motivated?
Any encouragement (I can do this, etc)
I am building a habit for myself, It takes time, It doesn't take that long, etc.