Thoughts / Feelings
Is this a positive or a negative thought?
"I'm stupid, so I'm probably going to fail my math test.
You and your friend got cut from the basketball team. Your friend is really sad about it. How can you use an empathetic statement to make your friend feel better?
I got cut too, and I'm also disappointed. I'm sorry that this happened to us. Maybe we can try out next year, or maybe we can try out for a different sport together!
Your best friend has a cold, and she just drank out of your water bottle without asking. You really don't want to catch her cold. Use an I-statement to tell her how you feel.
I feel worried about getting sick when you drink from my water bottle. Please drink from your own water bottle, or use the drinking fountain.
What is an example of a negative stressor?
Getting pressured to do something you don’t want to do
Being bullied by someone
Having a lot of homework to do in a short amount of time
Having too many events scheduled on the same day
Being in a dangerous situation
You want to save up enough money to buy yourself a new pair of shoes. Your goal is to make $50. Come up with 2 ideas for how to make money to buy the shoes.
1) Sell a pair of shoes you already have
2) Ask your parents if you can mow the lawn or do some other chores and earn money
3) Steal $50 from your parents wallet
"I'm not very good at tennis, but I know if I keep practicing I will get better."
Positive
Your little brother broke his toy truck. He is so sad about it he cannot stop crying. How could you use an empathetic statement to help him feel better?
I'm sorry your toy broke. It makes me feel sad when my things break too. Can I see if there's a way I can glue the pieces back together for you?
Your classmate keeps kicking the back of your chair during class, making it hard for you to focus on what the teacher is saying. Use an I-statement to tell your classmate how you feel.
I feel very distracted when you kick the back of my chair during class. Please stop kicking the back of my chair.
What is an example of a positive stressor?
Making new friends, trying out for a sports team, trying a new hobby
Today is Wednesday. You have a basketball game on Thursday and 3 homework assignments due on Friday. Your goal is to get everything done on time without missing your game. Come up with 2 ideas to reach your goal.
1) Work really hard and get all of your homework assignments done before Thursday, even if you have to stay up really late.
2) Skip school on Wednesday so that you have more time to do your homework.
If you feel confident in your ability to make new friends and there is a new student in your class, how might your thoughts and feelings affect your behavior?
You might introduce yourself to the new student and try to be their friend.
Your classmate spilled their lunch all over the floor before they had a chance to eat it. They're very hungry and very sad because they have nothing left to eat. How could you show them empathy to help them?
"I'm so sorry your lunch spilled. That happened to me last year, and it was really frustrating. Do you want me to walk with you to the cafeteria to ask the lunch ladies if they have any extra food for you?
You and your brother both have friends over. You both want to play the video game with your friends, but there are only two controllers and your brother won't let you have a turn. Use an I-statement to tell your brother how you feel.
True or False: Feeling bad about yourself for feeling angry is a healthy way to manage your feelings.
False -- it's okay to get angry! We just have to manage our anger in healthy ways without letting it get out of control.
Chris wants to try out for the basketball team, but made a commitment to walk the neighbors' dogs after school. His goal is to try out for basketball without breaking the commitment to the neighbors. What is the best solution?
A. Walk the dog later in the day, after basketball.
B. Tell the neighbors you need to take a break from walking the dogs.
C. Go to soccer practice every other day.
D. All of the above.
A
If you THINK you're bad at soccer, how might you FEEL (what emotion) if you miss a shot during a game?
Embarrassed, ashamed, angry at yourself for messing up
Your friend is sad because her dog died. What is an example of an empathetic statement you could use to make her feel better?
I'm so sorry your dog died. I don't have a dog, but I can imagine that's really hard. Is there anything I can do to help you feel better? Maybe we could watch a movie to take your mind off of it for a little while.
Your friend is being bullied at school and you want to stand up for him. Give an example of an I-statement you could use to stand up to the bully.
I feel angry when you hurt my friend. Please leave him alone and stop bullying him.
List 3 physical responses that someone can experience when they're angry (example: heart beats faster)
shaking hands, red face, gritted teeth, trying to tower over / stand above others, skin feels hot, agitated body movements, using excessive hand gestures, using a louder voice
Jimmy is considering getting an after-school job. What "Check it out" questions should he ask himself before he makes his decision? List 2
Does this idea follow my personal and family values?
Will this idea help me stay safe and healthy?
Does this idea follow family, school, and community rules?
Does this idea show respect for myself and others?
Could this idea really work, that is, is it realistic?
Jimmy feels embarrassed about the way that he looks. His friends took a goofy picture of him and want to post it on social media. If he feels embarrassed about his appearance, how might he respond to the question?
He would probably say no because of his embarrassment.
One of your friends has been acting really sad lately. She's very quiet, and she doesn't laugh like she used to. She seems to have no energy and just wants to sleep all the time. What would be a good empathetic statement to say to her?
I've noticed you seem really sad lately. I really care about you and I want to help you if I can. Do you want to tell me what's going on?
You've noticed that your teacher never calls on you when you raise your hand to answer a question in class. Write an I-statement to tell them how you feel.
I feel left-out when you never call on me to answer questions. It makes me feel like you have favorites and I'm not one of them. Please let me answer questions sometimes.
List 3 healthy ways to manage stress or any other big emotion.
Take deep breaths, count to 10, go for a run or do some other physical activity, listen to calming music, do something you enjoy, read a book, try to plan ahead for assignments and tests so you feel prepared, talk to a trusted adult, journal
WISE is an acronym we used when learning about how to make decisions. What does each letter stand for?
W: What is the situation and what is your goal?
I: Ideas to think about
S: Select an idea and act on it
E: Evaluate what happened