Size of the Problem
If your pencil breaks, what size problem is it?
SMALL problem
True or false, conflicts always mean that people are being disrespectful.
False
Name one strategy from the DASH to Solutions Wheel.
Ignore
Play something else
Apologize
Tell how you feel
Wait and cool off
Tell them to stop
Play something else
Share and take turns
What is one way we can show respect with our actions at school?
Listen to others
Include
Show DASH
Follow the class plan
How can you respectfully ask someone to get out of your way?
"Excuse me could you move please?"
"Can you scoot over please?"
If your friend won't sit with you at lunch and has been ignoring you for three days, what size problem is it?
MEDIUM problem
If two students want to play different games at recess, what is one respectful way to solve it.
Take turns or play something else
If a classmate accidentally bumps into you in line, which strategy might work best?
Ignore
During group work, how can you show respect to your classmates?
Listen to others ideas, take turns, share materials,...
If a classmate makes a mistake, what is a respectful way to respond?
"That's ok, we all make mistakes sometimes."
If someone is threatening to beat you up after school, what size problem is it?
BIG problem
If you feel yourself getting angry during a conflict, what could you do before responding?
Wait and cool off by taking deep breaths, getting a drink of water, counting to 10, or.....
A classmate takes your place in line even though you were waiting. Which two strategies could you use to address this?
Tell how you feel or walk away.
A student is speaking during a class discussion. What is the respectful thing to do?
Listen quietly and look at the speaker.
Your friend wants to play a different game than you. What is a respectful way to respond?
"Maybe we can play your game first and then try mine."
Why is it important to match the size of your reaction to the size of the problem?
So your response fits the situation and doesn't make things worse.
During lunch, you notice two classmates whispering and pointing at another student. It seems like gossip. A friend asks you to join in the gossip. How can you handle this situation?
Refuse to gossip and walk away.
Tell them how you feel.
Play something else.
Why is it important to have more than one strategy on the DASH to Solutions Wheel?
So you can try different solutions if one doesn't work.
You disagree with a classmates opinion. How can you show respect while sharing your own idea?
"I see your point, but I think...."
"That is one idea. Here is another idea...."
You are frustrated because someone borrowed your marker without asking first. What is a respectful way to tell how you feel?
"I feel frustrated when you take my things without asking. Please ask first next time."
A classmate accidentally bumps your desk. You yell at them and stomp away. Why doesn't this reaction match the problem?
Because it is a small problem and your reaction was very big.
Why is it important to listen to the other person's point of view during a conflict?
To show respect and understand their perspective to help solve the problem peacefully.
You and a friend are arguing and it's getting heated. Which strategy might be the best to keep the conflict from getting bigger?
Walk away (and/or wait and cool off)
Why does showing respect make problem solving easier?
Keeps emotions calmer.
Makes solutions possible.
Protects the relationship.
Builds fairness and trust.
Ends the conflict faster.
Why are respectful words powerful in solving conflicts?
They help to calm the situation and show care for the other person's feelings.