DEAR MAN
What is an example of a reward that you could give when using DEAR MAN with someone
"I'll do...in return," "I'll be more relaxer, happier, or fun to be around," "I will be very grateful," "I'll give you a hug," "I'll be less angry"
What's an example of not being gentle when using the GIVE skill
Using a harsh tone, making threats, calling names, being impatient, yelling, blaming, making angry faces
True or false: when using the FAST skill you can tell white lies, but not big lies
True or false: In a conversation between two people it's best for one person to ask most of the questions
False - conversations should involve both people asking the same percentages of questions
In what stated of mind should you end a destructive relationship?
Wise mind
What is the DEARMAN skill used for?
To get our wants and needs met, to say no, and/or to set boundaries.
What is an example of being interested with nonverbal communication?
Looking at the person, appropriate eye contact, head nodding, reactions/facial expressions that show you're listening, open and relaxed posture.
True or false: the A in FAST stands for apologies
False, it stands for NO apologies
Also the "What" skills, what are the three main components of mindfulness of others
Observe, Describe, and Participate
True or false: it's more important to end a destructive relationship than to protect your safety
False- It's more important to delay ending a destructive relationship if ending the relationship now would put your safety at great risk
Give a scenario for when you might use the DEAR MAN skill
Literally only when asking someone to do the dishes
false, the E stands for easy manner, which means it's okay to be unserious
What does FAST stand for
Fair, no Apologies, Stick to values, Truthful
How can you guarantee that you won't make ANY friends
Never leave the house
What skill(s) can you use to prepare to end a destructive relationship?
Cope ahead OR GIVE, FAST, opposite action, DEAR MAN
What does DEAR MAN stand for?
Describe, Express (your feelings), Assert (yourself), Reinforce/Reward, Mindfulness (keep your focus) Appear confident, Negotiate
What dose GIVE stand for?
Gentle, Interested, Validating, Easy manner
Which of the three types of effectiveness does the FAST skill fall under
A.) Self-respect effectiveness
B.) Objectives effectiveness
C.) Relationship effectiveness
A.) Self-respect effectiveness
What are two conversational skills that should help someone make friends
Don't interrupt, ask and respond to questions, make small talk, self disclose skillfully, learn things to talk about, and more
What skill should you use if you think you can repair the relationship rather than end it
Problem solving
What does the term "broken record" mean when talking about the DEAR MAN skill
Repeating your request whenever you don't get an answer or when the other person tries to change the subject
When using the GIVE skill on yourself, you are no longer using interpersonal effectiveness skills instead you are using __________ __________ skills
What is the primary goal of using FAST
Maintaining self-respect
I would also take the answer: getting what you want/need or saying no
True of false: ALL human beings are loveable
True
What are some ways you can tell that a relationship should be ended?
The relationship doesn't make you happy, you're doing all of the emotional labor in the relationship, the relationship is harmful or unsafe