Red Flags
Someone wants your passwords to “prove trust.”
What makes this unhealthy?
Trust is not about giving someone control of your private things. Wanting passwords can be about control, not trust.
They respect when you say no.
Why is that important?
It shows they care about your feelings and choices.
What is a boundary?
A boundary is a rule you make to protect yourself.
Difference between attention and connection?
Attention is someone noticing you.
Connection is someone caring about you.
How does self esteem affect dating choices?
If you feel good about yourself, you choose better. If you feel bad, you might accept less.
They move very fast, big feelings, big promises early on.
What might that be called and why is it risky?
This can be called love bombing. It feels exciting, but it can be fake or too fast.
They take accountability without blaming you.
What does that show?
It shows maturity. They can admit mistakes.
Example of a boundary in an online relationship?
Not sending private pictures. Not sharing passwords. Not talking late at night.
Why might someone act differently online?
They might feel more confident. They might want to be someone else. They might want more attention.
What does seeking validation mean?
Looking for other people to make you feel important or wanted.
They get jealous when you spend time with others.
When does jealousy become controlling?
It becomes controlling when they try to stop you from seeing friends or make you feel guilty.
You feel calm instead of anxious.
What does that say about the relationship?
It feels safe and steady.
Why do people ignore their own boundaries?They want attention.
They want attention. They are scared of losing the person. They want to feel loved.
If someone believed they were “enough,” how would dating change?
They would not chase people who treat them badly. They would not need constant attention.