Accountability pt1
T or F:
We should own up to our actions to be accountable people.
True
True or false: Blaming others for our actions helps us achieve our goals and be a good person.
False - it is not okay to blame others for causing us to do things and distracts from reaching our goals.
You break your siblings phone by accident. What would happen if you: own up, apologize and try to fix it or if you hide it under the bed and pretend nothing happened.
If you own up to your mistake, apologize and try to fix it, they will be mad but will get over it. You are being respectful to them by apologizing
If you hide it under the bed: you are now lying and you will get in more trouble when they find out what actually happened. You are being disrespectful and dishonest by not telling the truth.
How would you feel if your friend never showed up for activities you two planned to do together?
Irritated, sad, disappointed
This is what it would be like if people never fulfilled their commitments.
T or F:
You should apologize even when you don't mean it.
False
What can you do to take personal responsibility for your school work?
Make a plan how to get it done, ask if you have questions or are confused, check your grades, complete all of your homework
You lose control and call your friend a mean name.
1. Storm off and say 'they had it coming'.
2. Cool off, apologize and promise to try to self-regulate next time
2. Cool off, apologize and promise to try to self-regulate next time
You forgot to shut the door/gate and the dog escaped, what should you do?
Take ownership that you made a mistake, tell your parents, help to find the dog.
T or F:
There can be good and bad consequences in life.
True
Your brother is being annoying and you get mad and say something mean. What can you do to take accountability for what you said?
Accept that saying something mean was not okay even if your brother was mean, apologize to your brother, try to make a better choice next time (walk away, take a deep breath, ask him to stop in a nice way)
Your parent asked you to clean up your room. You forgot and instead played video games for 3 hours. Your parents finds you playing video games and they are very angry.
What do you do?
Stop playing video games, apologize for forgetting and start cleaning up as soon as possible.
Your parents remind you many times to put your things away. What Would Happen if You Left Your Bike in the Driveway, and Someone Ran Over It? Whose Fault Is It?
It is your fault for not putting your bike where it should be.
Not owning up to your mistakes is irresponsible behavior. Learning to accept fault is key to becoming more responsible.
Name 1 step you can take in being an accountable person.
Being honest, owning up to our mistakes/behavior (even when we might get into trouble), making sure our responsibilities get done, etc.
What Would Life Be Like if No One Was Held Accountable for Their Actions?
people would break the law, steal things, hurt others, not work, many things would not get accomplished, blame things on you or others.
Would you want to live in a world like this?
You get angry when your parents reminds you to do something for the 4th time. You yell at them and storm away.
What can you do to be an accountable person?
Apologize and complete the task that they asked you to do.
Next time complete the task after being asked once or twice so they stop asking you.
Also, communicate with them. For example:
"I'm really into this game, can I do it in 20 minutes?"
"I don't feel good right now, can I do it later?"
How would you feel if your parents stopped driving you places that you needed to go? If they stopped working? If they stopped buying the things you need?
Confused, upset, hungry, maybe even angry or scared
If one person decides not to follow through on their commitments and responsibilities, all people involved suffer.