Category 1
You are active and focused. You pay attention to understand the message.
"Active" (Real) Listening
Pretending to listen without actually paying attention or understanding.
pseudo listening
Listening to your teacher in class to understand the lesson.
Example of real listening.
What could be the results of good (real) listening?
People Will Be Drawn To You
Relationships Will Deepen
You Will Understand Others Better
May Even Lead To Increased Success
What’s the main difference between hearing and listening?
Hearing is passive and just receiving sound; listening is active and requires focus to understand.
Nodding while someone talks, but thinking about what you'll eat later.
Example of pseudo listening
What could be the results of bad (pseudo) listening?
Turns Off Potential Relationships
Creates Loneliness And Isolation
Dissatisfied Speaker
Feedback should be...
Immediate
Honest
Supportive
What are the signs of effective listening?
Active Listening
Paraphrasing
Clarifying
Feedback
Empathetic Listening
Open Listening
Aware Listening
Can someone be quiet and still not be listening?
Yes, they might appear attentive but could be daydreaming or distracted.
Why is real listening difficult for long periods?
It takes mental energy and focus, which can be tiring.
What might someone do to look like they're listening when they’re not?
Nod, make eye contact, or say “yeah” occasionally—pseudo listening behaviors.
Which type of listening is active: real or pseudo?
Real listening is active.
What is a “hidden agenda” in the context of pseudo listening?
Listening just to get something you want, not to truly understand the other person.
They respond with relevant questions or comments that show understanding.
real listening