Anger
What is Anger? Is it normal?
Anger is a normal feeling.
Everyone Gets Angry.
What is a hassle log?
It is a log that helps you learn about what makes you angry and how you handle these situations so you can work to change your behaviors that cause you to get in trouble and/or feel bad about yourself.
(What time of day was it, Where were you, What happened, Who was the other person, What did you do, How angry were you, How did you handle yourself)
What is a Cue?
It's a physical warning sign that everyone has that lets them know they are getting angry.
What does it mean to Think Ahead?
Thinking ahead to the consequences of your actions (If I do this now, THEN this will probably happen later).
What is Self-Evaluation and what are two types of Self-Evaluation?
It's judging how you handled a conflict situation or hassle after it is over.
Self-Coaching
Self-Rewarding
What is Aggression?
It is when you hurt someone or something when angry. This can lead to trouble with authorities (police, teachers, parents),with peers, and with feelings about self.
What is a Trigger?
Things that make you angry.
Identify at least 3 anger cues.
Muscle tension, knot in the stomach, clenched fists, grinding teeth, pounding heart, shaking legs/arms, etc.
Describe and identify a Short Term consequence.
Consequence that happens soon after my behavior. (i.e. the person i punched punched me back).
What is Self-Rewarding? Give two examples.
Self-Rewarding is to reward yourself when you feel that you have handled your anger well. (i.e. self-praise, watch a favorite TV show, eat a preferred meal).Self-Reward
What are some feelings that may be hidden by your anger?
Anxiety, Embarrassed, Jealous, Trapped, Pressured, Afraid, Devastated, Manipulated, Belittled, Inferior, Surprised, Sad, Offended, Deceived, Concerned, Confused, Powerless, Etc...
What are the two types of triggers?
Internal and External Trigger.
Name at least 3 anger reducers.
Deep Breathing
Backwards Counting
Pleasant Imagery
Etc.
Describe and identify a Long Term consequence.
A consequence for my behavior that takes time for me to experience (i.e. An assault conviction for punching someone).
What is Self-Coaching? Provide two examples.
Self-Coaching is when you problem solve how to handle your anger better in the future. (i.e. This time i punched the person i was angry at but next time i will walk away and take some deep breaths to avoid another assault charge).
What is Anger Control?
Anger control means having more personal power by being able to be in control of your angry reactions despite the attempts of others to hassle you.
Internal Triggers are things we say to ourselves that increase our angry impulses and or physiological feelings that make us feel angry.
Describe and identify an Internal consequence.
When Self-Evaluation what is the key thing you need to remember.
Have Self-Compassion. Don't beat yourself up!
What are the ABC's of Anger?
(A) Antecedent - What led up to the problem?
(B) Behavior - How you responded to the Antecedent.
(C) Consequence - The results of your Behavior.
An External trigger is something that someone else does or things that happen that cause us to react with anger or become stressed out.
Describe and identify an External consequence.
An External Consequence is something that happens to you outside of yourself. (i.e. The person you punched punches you back).
If you get stuck in the Angry Behavior Cycle it can lead to more negative consequences for you down the road. What can you do to exit the Angry Behavior Cycle? Provide at least 3 examples.
Use a Positive Social Skill:
Making a Complaint, Understanding the Feelings of Others, Getting Ready for a Difficult Conversation, Dealing with Someone Else's Anger, Keeping Out of Fights, Helping Others, Dealing with an Accusation, Dealing with Group Pressure, Expressing Affection, and Responding to Failure.