Conflict Resolution
Avoid reacting defensively or angrily, even if the accusation feels unfair.
Ex: "I understand you’re upset. I didn’t take it, but I want to help figure out what happened.”
Ask respectful questions to better understand the situation.
If appropriate, offer to check your belongings or help look for the missing item.
If the person keeps accusing you unfairly, stay respectful but firm.
Ex: “I’ve told you the truth, and I want to move on respectfully. Let’s find another way to handle this."
How do you know if a relationship is hurting you?
Examples:
They don't appear to care about you/how you're feeling.
They only reach out if they want something.
They consistently ask you/pressure you to do things you don't want to do.
What do you think is your greatest strength?
Ex: Determination, intelligence, sense of humor, etc.
When you can't change a stressful situation, what is one way you can calm down?
Ex: Breathing exercises, going for a walk/run, playing your favorite game, calling a friend, etc.
Where do you feel emotion in your body? (Example emotions: anger, sadness, excitement, jealousy)
What is your biggest trigger in your relationships?
Examples: Dishonesty, selfishness, irresponsibility, etc.
What is one of your current boundaries?
Examples:
You don't respond to texts/calls after 8pm.
You don't drink/do drugs.
You prefer for others not to hug you.
What is something you're proud of yourself for?
Ex: Grades, sports, good friendships, etc.
What's a healthy way to express anger without hurting yourself or others?
Ex: physical exercise, journaling/drawing/painting, taking deep breaths before speaking, etc.
How do you know when your annoyance turns into anger?
Ex: Little things start bothering you, you find yourself acting disrespectfully, etc.
How do you know when you’ve gone too far in a disagreement?
Examples: Yelling/shouting, name-calling, crosses into physical fighting, etc.
How could you respond when someone crosses your boundary?
Examples:
Calmly remind them of your boundary.
Remove yourself from the situation/relationship if they try to cross your boundary again.
What is something you're looking forward to in your future?
Ex: Going to college, having a job you enjoy, traveling to a new place, etc.
What is something you can do when you feel lonely?
Ex: Call/text a loved one, go for a walk and connect with nature, watch a movie/show, etc.
What emotions do you feel most often during a typical day?
Ex: positive and engaged, frustrated and anxious, tired and stressed, etc.
What makes it hard to apologize, and what makes it easier?
Examples:
Hard- Not believing you should apologize, the other person called you hurtful names, don't know how to apologize, etc.
Easy- You feel bad and want to apologize, the person is quiet and calm, knowing the person will hear you out, etc.
How can you communicate a need?
Examples:
"I think I need a minute to calm down."
"I'm feeling pretty anxious right now, would you mind if we went somewhere quiet?"
"I didn't like it when you called me [enter], I would appreciate it if you didn't do it again."
What is a way you show kindness to yourself even on your bad days?
Ex: Going to bed early, listening to your favorite song, getting yourself a small treat, etc.
When you're having a tough day, who can you talk to?
Ex: A friend, trusted adult, Rosie, etc.
What emotion is hardest for you to show and why?
Ex: "I find it hard to show when I'm sad because I don't want to worry anyone."
How can you tell when it’s better to walk away from a situation?
Examples:
The other person is in an angry, defensive state.
You feel yourself becoming dysregulated.
A friend is trying to convince you to do something you don't want to do- how could you set that boundary?
Example:
"As I've said, I really don't feel comfortable doing [enter] and I would appreciate it if you'd respect that."
What do you think others would say is your greatest strength?
Ex: Resiliency, empathy, dedication, etc.
What is something you can do when you're feeling sad?
Ex: Take a warm shower, do something creative, engage with a favorite thing (book, show, music, etc.), call a loved one, etc.
Think of a time you feel like you handled your emotions really well. What worked for you?
Ex: "One time, I was really upset because I got a low grade on a test, but instead of letting it ruin my day, I took some deep breaths and listened to my favorite song to calm down."