Strategies for Self-Control
Replaying the situation in your mind to be able to evaluate your thoughts for accuracy and facts.
What is Do a Mental Rewind?
Holding others responsible for things that happen in your life.
What is Blaming?
Getting stuck on uncomfortable thought and stories that lead to unworkable choices.
What is Getting Hooked?
A tool for planning for situations that come up that are outside of our control.
A set of tools to help manage situations that get in the way of change.
What are Strategies?
Not using harsh demands, all or nothing statements, and blaming attacks.
What is Keeping Options Open?
Hiding your real thoughts in a question.
What is Rhetorical Questions?
Moving further away from or putting us out of touch with what is in important in our lives.
What is Losing Touch with Values?
A tool used to take a step back and test the workability of our thoughts and feelings before taking action.
What is Getting Unhooked from Thoughts?
Identifying and understanding the role substances play in making both workable and unworkable choices.
Looking at both sides of the situation and coming to a joint solution.
What is to Seek Compromise?
Calling someone names or putting them down.
What is Loaded Words?
Gets in the way of what's happening right now and affects what kind of choices we make.
What is Too Much Past and Future?
A tool for tuning into the here and now.
What is Reconnection with the Present?
Identifying people, places, things, activates, times of day and sights and sounds that can influence unworkable choices.
What is Managing High-Risk Situations?
Not allowing another person's lack of control or judgment affect your own response.
What is to Not get Sucked in?
Thinking in extreme, overgeneralized terms.
What are Absolutes?
To make unworkable choices based off of avoiding things that make us feel uneasy.
What is Avoiding Discomfort?
A tool for getting clarity about who and what are important to you.
What is Embracing Your Values?
A group of individuals that encourage, support and provide accountability for change.
What is a Support Network?
Seeking out people who can provide you with honest and objective feedback.
What is to Seek Help and Support?
Believing you have no options so you are not responsible for your choices.
What are Have to, Must and Needs?
Actions and behaviors that do not align with your values and belief systems.
What are Unworkable Choices?
Actions and behaviors that align with your values and belief systems.
What are Workable Choices?
Positive self-reflection and positive self-talk that encourages shelf change.
What is Recognizing Strengths?