What is anger?
What is another word to describe anger?
Mad, frustrated, rage, fury, wrath, enraged, livid
Name one body sign that tells you you’re getting angry.
Getting quiet, still body, hot, tight fists
Name one thing that commonly makes kids angry.
Substitutes, not being able to play video games, not being able to help out, not able to find friends, not able to do what they want
Name one way to calm your body when you’re angry.
breathing in and out
True or False: Our thoughts can make anger stronger
TRUE!
Is anger a bad emotion, good emotion, or normal emotion?
Normal Emotion
True or False: Anger always starts in our thoughts.
FALSE (can start in feelings, or behaviors)
What’s a situation that makes you feel angry at school or home?
School: substitutes, when lunch is not good, when teacher repeats something over and over
Home: not being able to play video games, not able to do things I want to do
When should you use a calming strategy—before or after you explode?
before
What is a “thought” that might make anger grow?
Negative thoughts
Trying to tell us that something is making us upset, or something is wrong
Where do you feel anger the most in your body?
In my thoughts (why I go quiet)
Why do unexpected changes make anger stronger?
Sometimes change is scary, makes me cry and feel even bigger emotions.
Which calming skill works best for you and why?
Breathing, calms my thoughts
What’s a calmer thought you could use instead?
Something positive "you are doing great"
Can you name two emotions that may be hiding under anger?
Scared, sadness
What body signal tells you it’s time to take a break?
Hot, quiet, start feeling angry
What’s one trigger you can’t control—and one you can?
Can control: who are my friends, my actions
Can not control: videos games, teachers, other people actions
Create a 1-minute calm-down plan for yourself.
Breathe > find something to make you not stress > remove yourself from room > Breathe
How can we tell the difference between facts and angry thoughts?
Ask someone for help, angry thoughts have more feeling attached to them than facts.
Anger isn’t the real problem — it’s usually a signal. What might anger be protecting or trying to help with in your life?
Safety, hurt feelings or boundaries
Imagine your anger is a warning light. What are three body signals, in order, that tell you anger is building from small → big?
thoughts > talk louder > go quiet
Think of a recent time you got very angry. What was the trigger, and what made it grow instead of shrink?
Brother and dad fighting- trigger
Anger grew because I was in the middle "whose side should I be on"
Design a personal anger plan:
1 body strategy
1 thinking strategy
1 action you can take if anger gets big
Body: Breathe
Thinking: Imagine I am in a place I like
Action: Standing up and leaving the room
What is an angry thought that makes situations worse for you, and what is a replacement thought that could help you stay in control?
Angry: " You are going to make things worse" "stop doing that" "what are you doing"
Replacement positive: "you've got this" "just breathe" "stay calm"