Anger Signs
What is an "Anger sign"?
A sign that you are feeling angry!
Why should we use skills when we are angry?
So we can make the best choices we can make, be in control and feel better.
What is body awareness?
Being aware of our body, and how it feels or what sensations are taking place.
(is there tightness or looseness in a part of my body, what does my face look like, does something hurt or is sore, are we hungry, thirsty or tired.)
What is a word for a feeling low on the Anger thermometer?
Frustrated, upset, irritated, annoyed
How can other people tell that you're angry, even when you don't say anything?
Your anger signs! Your body and face shows most of these.
What skill helps you make good choices when you're angry?
S.T.O.P
Stop, take a step back, observe and proceed.
Why should we pay attention to our bodies and their sensations?
It helps us understand ourselves, what we are feeling, and what we need to do to keep ourselves safe or get what we need/want.
What is the angriest word that you can think of?
Staff choice
Someone hits you. Your face is hot want to hit them back.
Skills (STOP, TIPP etc.) and tell an adult
When should you try and figure out your anger signs?
Both when your calm and when you're angry!
What is a good skills to use anywhere and anytime?
S.T.O.P and Breathing
Why is body awareness important when we feel angry?
If we are able to identify we're starting to feel angry - when we're feeling lower on the feeling thermometer, we are able to control and address our anger better. It is very difficult to control anger when it is strong.
What is a word that for a feeling that is high or over the top on the anger thermometer?
Irate, Furious, enraged, infuriated, outraged, hostile
Your friend has said something unkind to you, you don't know if they wanted to hurt your feelings or not. You feel your face is hot, you feel like you are going to cry and your chest is tight.
Noticed your signs! Skills, first to calm your body (Breathing, tapping, 54321) and then G.I.V.E, D.E.A.R M.A.N and I statements.
Why should somebody know their anger signs?
To understand themselves and what's going on around them. To help someone be able to control their emotions and their body.
What is a skill that can help your body feel calm when you're angry?
Butterfly taps/tapping, roll off skills/ self hug/ squeezing ,breathing techniques, 54321 method
What is an example of a bodily sensation?
Tension/tightness, soreness, tingling, temperature(hot/cold), shaking
What is a word for a feeling that is medium on the anger thermometer?
Mad, upset, displeased, cross, Annoyed
Someone take something you were using. Your hands clenched into a fist and you feel like yelling. What should you do?
Recognize your anger signs! Use a skill (S.T.O.P, breathing, PMR, be assertive by using an I statement
What is an example of a physiological anger sign?
Sweating, heart beating fast, redness
What is the difference between a healthy coping skills and and unhealthy coping skill?
A healthy coping skill helps you and makes you feel better in the long run, and unhealthy coping skill normally makes you feel good right away, but does not help you long term.
Example: A friend says something that offends you
Healthy Coping skill would be using the S.T.O.P skill and maintaining a healthy relationship with the friend. (bonus points for assertiveness)
Unhealthy coping skill: you feel a lot better once you punch your friend in the face. But now you're not friends anymore and your old friend keeps making me comments in the lunchroom.
What is a practice that is something that can help you be aware of your body when your not angry and when you are angry.
Meditation
Why is it important to know other words for angry than just angry?
Helps us communicate more clearly what we are feeling and how strongly we are feeling it. Helps us get our needs met.
You had a bad dream about something bad that happened to you in the past. You woke up feeling angry about what happened to you. That day, You told your teacher their lesson was dumb, you ran away from your friends when they asked you to play soccer and you screamed at your dog when he got in your way. You cannot stop feeling angry - what should you do?
- Recognize your angry signs (being unkind to others, yelling)
- use a skill to regulate (T.I.P.P and the 54321 method)
- use a coping skill (journaling/ drawing , going on a walk, watching your favorite TV show)
- ask for help/ Express feelings ( talk to a trusted adult such as a family member, teacher or ACE staff )