Anger
This emotion can be a normal response when we feel hurt, threatened, frustrated, or disrespected
What is Anger
Someone says, “I don't care,” after being left out by their friends. This emotion might actually be underneath their anger
What is Hurt or rejection
“It's not my fault. They made me angry.
What is blaming
Avoiding a difficult conversation because you don't want to deal with uncomfortable feelings
What is avoidance?
Instead of immediately yelling when angry, this skill gives you time to think before acting.
What is pausing
This is what happens when something happens that causes an emotional reaction.
What is a trigger
Someone becomes angry when a person criticizes them because they are worried about being judged.
What is anxiety or embarrassment?
Someone is angry but says, “You're the one who's angry!
What is projection?
Using comments like, “Wow, you finally did something right,” to express anger indirectly
What is sarcasm?
Instead of saying, “They made me angry,” try saying
I feel angry because.... Any I statement works
Anger can be appropriate, but this type of response can involve yelling, threatening, insulting, or intimidating others.
What is inappropriate anger expression
Someone is angry because their parent said no to something they really wanted.
What is disappointment or frustration?
“I don't have an anger problem. Everyone else is just too sensitive.
What is denial
Giving someone the silent treatment or purposely not doing something because you're angry.
What is passive aggression?
Someone thinks, “They're disrespecting me!” before yelling. What part of the anger chain is this?
What is the thought
Anger can sometimes cover up this emotion that involves feeling exposed or humiliated.
What is shame
Someone says, “Whatever!” after feeling like nobody is listening to them
What is feeling unheard or frustrated?
“I yelled because they wouldn't listen to me.
What is rationalization?
This defense mechanism involves making excuses or explanations to make unhealthy behavior seem reasonable.
What is rationalization?
heart racing, fists tightening, and face getting hot. These are examples of what?
What are physical warning signs of anger
Complete the chain:
Trigger → ______ → Thought → Behavior → Consequence
What is Feeling
True or False: You can have a valid reason to be angry and still respond to the situation in an unhealthy way.
What is True
Someone has a terrible day at school and then takes their frustration out on their sibling.
What is displacement?
Name three defense mechanisms that can be connected to anger.
blaming, projection, denial, rationalization, displacement, avoidance, sarcasm, passive aggression
Put these in the correct order:
Behavior – Trigger – Consequence – Feeling – Thought
Trigger → Feeling → Thought → Behavior → Consequence