FEELINGS
We feel this emotion when we are hurt, frustrated, and really mad.
What is Anger?
Some people never get angry.
FALSE
Anger is normal! What is important is how we control it.
This strategy involves using your nose and mouth to calm down. We usually take at least 3.
What are Deep Breaths?
Your brother/sister steals your new game. What are two examples of inappropriate ways to manage your anger toward your sibling?
Screaming, kicking/hitting, bottling up your emotions, etc.
When we get really angry and act out, we sometimes get in trouble. What feelings might we have once we realize the consequence of our anger?
What is Embarrassment, Sadness, Guilt, etc.?
It is not okay for you to express your anger. You need to keep it inside.
FALSE
It is important to express emotions, but in an appropriate and controlled way.
This method involves saying something slowly from start to finish. Hint: you can go forward or backward.
What is Counting to Ten?
Your friend is extremely angry after he realizes he forgot his homework. What can you say to them to help them out?
Remind them of coping skills, tell them you understand how they feel, help them talk to the teacher, etc.
Sometimes when we are angry we intentionally hurt others. What are some feelings you think someone would have if we hurt them?
What is Sadness, Fear, Embarrassment, etc.?
If you ignore anger, eventually it will go away.
FALSE
It is important to address our feelings. Bottling them up can make us feel worse.
Going for a run, playing basketball, and biking outside are all forms of_______, which can help us to feel calmer.
You get really angry at your mom for arriving late to pick you up from soccer practice, and you lose control and yell at her. What should you say to her once you are calm?
Apologize, talk it out, explain to her why you were upset, use "I Statements"
Sometimes people use anger to hide other feelings. Name two of these hidden feelings.
What is Shame, Grief, Fear, Disappointment, etc.?
When we get angry, our heart rate speeds up and our temperature rises.
TRUE
Our bodies react to anger in the same way we react to threats/danger. (This is called Fight or Flight response)
In this method, you imagine something positive, or think about things that make you happy.
What is Visualizing/ Mindfulness Meditation?
Jamie gets really mad in math class because the work is hard, and he flips over his chair and storms out. His teacher gives him a CV. What are two things he can do next time to prevent himself from getting a CV?
Take deep breaths, draw or write for two minutes, ask the teacher for a break, get some water, go to the calm-down corner, talk to a coach or counselor, etc.
With this type of anger, people do not aggressively show their anger. Instead, they might ignore others, roll their eyes, or pretend everything is fine even though they are mad.
What is Passive Anger/ Passive Aggression?
A lot of anger can harm our health.
TRUE
Excessive anger causes stress, which can lead to illness and can make us gain weight or lose sleep.
When you are ready to share how you feel with the person that made you angry, it is important to use this kind of statement, where you share what YOU feel.
What are "I Statements"?
Jayla had a fight with her friend yesterday and called her friend a liar, and ripped up her friend's homework out of anger. What are three possible consequences of Jayla's loss of control?
Get a time out, lose recess, get grounded, lose friends, feel embarrassed or worse after, etc.