Communication
This style of communication allows us to take care of ourselves, and is fundamental for good mental health and healthy relationships.
Assertive communication.
This is the tool used to gauge your anger level.
Anger meter.
Breathing with long breaths, especially as exercise or a method of relaxation.
What does CRM stand for?
Conflict Resolution Model.
True or False: Anger is inherited. If false, explain why.
False. Anger is a learned behavior.
This is a style of communication where individuals appear to be avoiding communication but are indirectly violating the rights of others often through sarcasm.
Passive aggressive communication.
This cue to anger is all about thinking (hostile self talk, thoughts of revenge, images of aggression)
Cognitive cue.
The action of putting a pen to paper and writing about what you are experiencing and feeling.
Journaling.
While addressing a conflict it is important to be mindful of...
Nonverbal communication (eye contact, posture, facial expressions etc)
Anger is...
A secondary emotion.
This is a style of communication which express their wants, needs, and feelings in a way that violates the rights of others and frequently uses 'you statements'.
Aggressive communication.
This cue to anger is the action others can see (clenching fists, raising voice, punching a wall, staring at others, pacing back and forth)
Behavioral cue.
These are the people we talk to while trying to process and make sense of a conflict.
A neutral 3rd party (sober support, sponsor, therapist etc.)
Define active listening.
Listening to receive information not respond. (asking questions, repeating what was said)
Explain the concept of 'Anger is like an iceberg'
Anger is what we see on the surface, but underneath is what we are actually experiencing such as sadness, rejection, fear, worry, hurt.
This is a style of communication in which individuals develop a pattern of avoiding expressing their wants, needs, and feelings.
Passive communication.
This cue to anger is the feeling we are actually experiencing underneath the anger (fear, hurt, disappointment, jealous, disrespected, anxious, sad)
Emotional cue.
This is a set of strategies to help detach and distract from emotional pain by redirecting your focus.
Grounding techniques.
When sharing 'how does it make you feel' what kind of language do you need to use?
'I statements'
These are a set of expectations for how to handle conflict discussed with a significant other BEFORE a conflict.
Fair Fighting Rules (time out, no cussing or name calling, no stonewalling, no yelling etc.)
This is a style of communication where individuals clearly state their wants, needs, and feelings with 'I statements' in a respectful and appropriate manner.
Assertive communication.
This cue to anger is how our bodies initially respond outside of our control (increased heart rate, tightness in chest, feeling hot, increased blood pressure)
Physical cue.
A practice where an individual operates or trains the mind or induces a mode of consciousness
Meditation
This is the first step in the conflict resolution model.
Stop, Think, Decide.
Explain the Anger Meter and what do we have to remember.
1 being cool as a cucumber
10 being the blow up (isolating, silent treatment, punching a wall, yelling and screaming)
Everyone's Anger Meter is different! My 7 can look very different than your 7!