lesson 5
What is cognitive restructuring?
change the way you think
What is anger?
an emotion
Define assertiveness
What are the steps to the conflict resolution model?
1. Identify the problem
2. Identify the feelings
3. Identify the specific impact
4. Identify what you would like to see happen
Give an example of thought stopping.
Dont go there, you will go to jail if you do this, I will only get into trouble if I keep thinking this way.
When does anger become a problem?
When it is felt to intensely, to frequently and is intended to cause harm
What are some problems you may experience if you act aggressively during a conflict
loss of freedom, loss of relationships, lose job, get hurt, hurt someone else, people do not want to be around you
Is anger inherited?
No
What is thought stopping?
a series of self commands to stop thinking thoughts that are making you angry
Describe a person who is aggressive
bullying, intimidating, intend to cause harm, only cares about their needs and no one elses
what are some problems you may experience if you respond passively during a conflict?
you never get your needs met, others will think you are a push over, etc
What are the 4 cues to anger?
1. physical
2. behavioral
3. emotional
4. cognitive
Who created the ABCD model?
Albert Ellis
Describe a passive person
they try to avoid conflict, never get their needs met, never stand up for their needs
What are some advantages of acting assertively when trying to resolve conflicts?
You are left feeling good about how you handled the problem, the other person is left feeling respected
What is the anger meter used for?
to monitor your anger
What does ABCD stand for?
Activating event, belief, consequences and dispute.
What are the 2 types of time outs? and describe
Formal and informal
What is the model called used when you act assertively?
conflict resolution model
If you are a 7 on the anger meter what phase of the aggression cycle are you in?
escalation