Myths
What is Myth #3
You must be aggressive to get what you want.
What is a Emotional Cue
What is the box that is referred to when asked about your control plan?
Toolbox
What is the buildup on the Aggression Cycle
Increased heart rate, flushed, hot, clenched fists, pacing back and forth, hostile thoughts and images
What does ABCD mean in the model?
4000 points
A-Activating Situation
B- Belief
C-Consequence
D-Dispute
What is Myth #1
The way you express anger cannot be changed
What is Behavioral Cues
Clench our fists, pace back and forth, slam a door, raise our voice.
What is it called when you need a minute to think about the situation?
A Timeout
What is the Explosion Cycle?
Verbal aggression, destructiveness, violence
What are the 5 steps for the Conflict Resolution Model
1. Identify the problem
2.Identify the feelings
3. Identify the Specific impact ( outcome)
4. Decide whether to resolve the conflict
5. Addressing and Resolving the conflict
What is Myth #4
Venting Anger is always Disirable
What is Physical Cues
Heart rate gets faster, tightness in the chest, feel hot or flushed
Give me an example of something you can use in your control plan?
Take a timeout, talk to a friend, exercise
What is the Aftermath Cycle?
fired from a job, kicked out of class, loss of family, friends, jail time, guilt, shame.
What is Passive?
Don't believe your feelings or emotions matter. try and keep the peace.
What is Myth #2
Anger automatically leads to anger
What is Cognitive Cues
usually very critical and hostile thoughts, images of aggression and revenge.
What is an exercise that is mentioned in the book that helps you relax.
Relaxation through breathing
What is another practice you can do to calm yourself down?
Relaxation through progressive muscle relaxation
What is Passive-Aggressive-
the belief that others are making unreasonable demands on them so they ignore the demand or try to mess the demand up.
What is a payoff to using anger that you are familiar with?
Controlling people, releasing tension, Yelling, demanding
Daily Double..
Worth 1000 points. Can all four of the Cues happen together on one incident?
Daily Double...
2500 points. Where/Who can you get support from if none of your tools are working?
What phase of the aggression cycle are you in if you reach a 7
The buildup cycle.
What are assertive, aggressive and passive?
They are learned behaviors