Act It Out
Your classmate tool and used your calculator without asking first. Instead of yelling at them or accusing them of stealing, communication to them how you feel and what you would like by using an "I-message."
I message: "I feel ___ when ___. I need ___."
"I felt upset when I found out you took my calculator without asking first. Next time, please ask me first if you want to use it."
*Triple Points
Some clues that might indicate a person is feeling angry include:
1)tight fists
2)increased heart rate
3)headache or stomach ache
4)Thinking shuts down
5)Clenched jaw
6)Feeling hot in the face
*Double points
Where in your body do you usually feel sensations of anger?
*Triple Points
1)Imagine if anger was a color what color would it be?
2)Shape?
3)Size?
4)Temperature?
2)What do you look like when you feel calm?
*Double Points
Your brother went into your room without asking first and made a huge mess. You feel really angry not only because he violated your personal space but also because now it is messy. Give your brother an "I-message" telling him how you feel and what you would like to happen now.
*Double Points
There is a difference between feeling angry and reacting in anger towards someone.
One way to deal with anger in a healthy way is to move and exercise. This can help release tension that a person's body feels when angry. What is your favorite way to exercise or get moving?
Imagine if the teacher wrote your name on the board for talking out of turn and disrupting the class. You feel embarrassed and then angry. What positive thought could you tell yourself to de-escalate (lessen) the anger feelings?
*Double Points
Rank in order from gets me the most to least angry:
a-being teased
b-feeling left out
c-physical pain
d-being told "no"
e-being disrespected
What is something a person can do to calm down first before addressing a problem when they feel angry?
You will have a much better chance of getting what you want by using your fists and force instead of your words.
Sketch an angry emoji
Imagine if a classmate made fun of you for what you were wearing. What could you do/or say that would help you to respond in a way that would not also be hurtful?
One way to feel calmer when you get angry is to breathe slowly. This can help to slow your heart rate and sends a message to your brain that you are okay. Practice taking 5 slow, mindful deep breaths.
*Double Points
Pretend that you and a friend are having a disagreement about what to do during recess. Instead of lashing out if frustration, use a problem-solving strategy. Some examples include taking turns, a game of chance like Rock Paper Scissors, or send each other and "I-message."
Other people have control over whether or not you react in anger.
*Double Points
What is something that can trigger you to feel angry sometimes?
*Double Points
Imagine If your best friend chose someone else other than you to work with on a partner project.
1)If you responded with anger, what would likely do/say?
2)If you responded with a positive thought, what would you likely to/say?
Which of the thoughts/statement would decrease feelings of anger?
a-"it's your fault"
b-"I never get a turn."
c-"Can we work this out?"
d-"You always get me mad"
e-"I felt embarrassed when you teased me."
f-"I care about our friendship and would like to work this out."
**triple points challenge: share a negative thought/words you use sometimes when feeling angry and what you could use instead
One way to not let anger take charge is to wait and cool off before dealing with a problem. Come up with a situation or conflict where you tell someone: "Let's wait and deal with this tomorrow when we both feel calmer."
How you think about a situation can influence how you respond towards that situation.
One coping tool that can help a person feel calmer when they experience anger is to imagine a peaceful or happy place. What is your peaceful/happy place you could visualize when angry?
Imagine if someone teased you or called you a name. What is a healthy strategy to deal with it?
A) say something mean back
B) ignore them or move away
C) laugh and use humor
D) push or hit them
**10 extra points for explaining consequences of each poor choice (all three=30 points)
Choose 3 of the healthy coping skills and act them out in silence. See if others can guess what you're doing. **double points if you do all of them
1-count to 20
2-exercise
3-slow breaths
4-music
5-imagine a peaceful place
6-"I message"
7-ask for help
8-stretch or yoga