Anger
What is anger?
A normative reaction to a threat, frustration, or injustice.
What is a trigger?
A stimulus- a person, place, situation, or thing that contributes to an unwanted emotional or behavioral response.
What does the A represent in the ABCDE Model of Anger Control?
Activating event or situation
Describe Assertive Communication
Standing up for your rights and expressing feelings, thoughts, and beliefs in a direct, honest and appropriate way without disrespecting others.
What is one step to consider when dealing with an accusation?
1. Think about what the other person accused you of
2. Think about why that person might have accused you
3. Think about ways to answer the person's accusation
4. Choose the best way to do it
What does anger look like for some people?
Yelling, screaming, throwing things, shutting down etc.
Name one way you can AVOID triggers
Making changes to your lifestyle
Making changes to your relationships
Making changes to your daily routine
What does the B represent in the ABCDE Model of Anger Control?
Beliefs or thoughts about the situation
Describe Aggressive communication
Expressing feelings, thoughts, and beliefs in a harmful and disrespectful way.
What is one step to consider when avoiding unnecessary conflicts (keeping out of fights)?
1. Stop and think about what triggered you to want to fight
2. Decide what you want to happen in your future
3. Think about ways to handle the situation besides fighting
4. Decide on the best way to handle the situation and do it
What negative impact can anger have on one's life?
Can cause family/relationship issues
Can cause family to worry or feel stressed
Can effect your plans for the future
Name one strategy you can use to deal with your triggers head on.
Coping Skills
A list of trusted people you can talk to
Rehearsed phrases to help you get out of troublesome situations
What does the C represent in the ABCDE Model of Anger Control?
Consequence - Emotion or feelings (how you felt)
Describe passive communication
The person does not express their own needs, or does not stand up for them.
What is one step to consider when dealing with someone else's anger?
1. Listen to the person who is angry
2. Try to understand what the angry person is saying and feeling
3. Do what you think is best to deal with the other person's anger
4. Decide what you can say or do to deal with the situation
Name two anger reducers we practiced in group
Deep breathing
Counting backwards
Hand pull
What is the best way to test your coping strategy?
Practice
What does the D represent in the ABCDE Model of Anger Control?
Disputing or challenging unhelpful beliefs
Why is assertive communication the best form of communication?
Passive- Your needs will not get met.
Aggressive communication- Negative consequences
Why is it important to think about your words and behaviors when dealing with someone else's anger?
You can possibly escalate the situation
Explain how using anger reducers helps to decrease our level of anger
Helps individuals lose focus on their surroundings and the things taking place around them.
Helps individual focus on themselves and take control.
Name 5 anger warning signs
Face turns red
Clench fist
Feel hot
Crying
Body or hands shaking etc
What does the E represent in the ABCDE Model of Anger Control?
New thoughts and feelings about the situation
Situation: You pay for a two-scoop ice cream cone but only get one scoop. You say "Hey, this place is a rip-off!" and smash your cone on the counter. What form of communication is this?
Aggressive
Why is it important to think first when being accused or wanting to fight?
Consequences, overreacting