WHAT IS BULLYING? HOW DO YOU DEFINE IT?
Thoughts:
picking on someone,
name calling,
doing something to make someone else not feel good,
Putting others down to make yourself feel better
Having property messed with
Bullies do it to have a one up, having power over someone else
Making someone feel little, belittling others
Preying on someones insecurities
Why is anger okay?
It's a human emotion-how we deal with it is important. Okay to be angry; not aggressive
It is okay to be aggressive
False
HOW DO YOU THINK OTHER STUDENTS WHO ARE BULLIED FEEL?
Thoughts:
Not wanted, people don’t want to be around them because they are afraid of being bullied also
Hurt
Self conscious
Stuck in the situation due to fear of telling others
Scared
Angry; tired of being bullied
Annoyed
Embarrassed
What is an Authoritarian parent?
Focus on obedience; punishment over discipline
What is a bystander?
Bystander: when someone just watches bullying happen. They do not intervene
Why might kids be bullied?
Thoughts:
Just being different generally from the person who is doing the bullying
Differences such as: ethnicity, physical features
Not being as athletic as someone else/difference in physical capabilities
Jealousy/friend group problems
Putting someone down to feel better about themselves
Clothes they wear
Culture, language, religion, food eaten, skin color, sexual orientation
Personality (quiet kid)
Social status (popularity), soci-oeconmic status
Mental/physical disabilities
It is okay to be angry
True
True or False: Anger often runs in families
True- Can be a genetic condition or learned bx
A family teaches a child how to express feelings such as being happy, sad, scared, and even angry. If the family members do not handle anger appropriately. then the child is likely to exhibit that same behavior.
What is an Uninvolved parent?
Provide little guidance/attention
What is an Upstander?
Upstander: someone who sticks up for someone being bullied
WHY MIGHT KIDS BULLY OTHERS?
Thoughts:
Make themselves feel better, more powerful
Situation at home is not the best-going through something, take it out on others
Masking Insecurities
They don’t like them, they like them and don’t know how to express it
Just to fit in a friend group
Anger affects your body
True-body creates energy
What is anger management?
Way to lessen the effect that anger has on you; therapeutic approach to help people respond to anger w/appropriately, teaches skills to handle anger
What is a Authoritative parent?
create positive relationships; enforce rules
WHAT POSITIVE THINGS COULD YOU DO IF YOU FELT THAT SOMEONE ELSE WAS BEING BULLIED?
Talk to them
Sit down with them at lunch
Do something kind for them- go hang out with them for a day. Get their mind off of whats happening
Try to find a higher authority and help yourself get out of the situation
Step in intervene and make sure it was stopped. Try to get the bully to stop
Try to talk to bully and see if they are okay themselves (check in with them)
Bring to light what they are doing. Help them with their confidence or self esteem issues (if that’s the case)
Why is being angry all the time, or uncontrolled anger dangerous?
-physical/mental health issues
Headaches
Sheep problems
Digestive problems
High blood pressure
Heart [problem
EVERYONE DESERVES TO FEEL SAFE AT SCHOOL.
Yes
What does your body do when you're angry?
adrenaline and other chemicals enter your bloodstream
Heart pumps faster
Blood flows more quickly
Muscles tense up
What is a Permissive parent?
Don't enforce rules; kids will be kids
AT WHAT POINT DOES CONFLICT BETWEEN STUDENTS BECOME BULLYING?
Bullying is when someone aggressively uses their “power” to target another individual with repeated, unwanted words or actions. Those targeted are hurt either physically or emotionally and have a hard time stopping what is happening to them.
Why does learning to deal with anger mean learning not to take problems or arguments personally?
Thoughts
DOES ANYONE DESERVE TO BE BULLIED?
No.
Can take ownership over the bullying and work towards bettering oneself
constructive criticism
What are some warning signs that you are feeling angry?
Tense muscles
Tight fists
Clenched jaw
Sweaty palms
Racing heartbeat
Fast breathing
Trembling or feeling shaky
Feeling warm or flushed
Upset stomach
Loud or mean voice
Name that parenting style:
A parent who says "what I say goes"
(authoritarian)