Anger Styles
True or False:
All of the types of anger can be neatly stacked together into 10 categories.
False, Anger and other emotions are dynamic and the causes are everchanging
Bonus Points: Why can it still be useful to categorize them?
What are the two types of strategies to handle anger?
Preventative strategies
Immediate strategies
What is resentment?
Resentment is the persistent feeling that you're being treated unfairly - not getting due respect, appreciation, affection, help, apology, consideration, praise, or reward.
What is the definition of forgiveness?
Forgiveness is the intentional and voluntary process by which one who may initially feel victimized, undergoes a change in feelings and attitude regarding a given offense, and overcomes negative emotions such as resentment and vengeance.
What year was AA founded?
Daily double question!
When was NA founded?
1935!
1953!
Define: Fearful Anger Style
This means that you may have a tendency to avoid anger altogether because of an uneasiness or nervous feeling that you may feel when around anger or angry situations - Fearful
Does anger cool down on its own? Why or Why not?
Anger doesn't cool down on its own. Anger has a cause in most cases and if that cause isn't handled it will continue to burn.
How might resentment effect sobriety?
Can feel like sobriety was forced on you
Want to escape
Desire to get back can take form in use
Other negative effects resentment may have on mental health.
What are some of the benefits of forgiveness?
It allows you to move forward from the pain you have experienced, and continue to live life in your own context and self determination.
After quitting use, the brain will begin healing from alcohol use after how long?
14 to 21 days.
What is the difference between shame based Anger and Righteous Anger?
Shame based is felt when the criticism or attack is on oneself, and righteous anger is based on a criticism or attack on your beliefs or values.
True or false:
Anger is an intrinsically negative emotion that should be dealt with as soon as possible.
Anger is a natural human emotion, which can be expressed in negative and positive ways. It should be handled with the time and care needed to ensure a solution is found.
What is the full quote?
"Resentment is like ____ ____ and then hoping it will ____ ___ ____"
"Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies"
What is forgiveness NOT? (As in, what is not included)
Forgetting or condoning, Granting legal mercy, or reconciling a relationship
After quitting meth, their is significant improvement in the brains health after how many months?
12-17 months
What type of anger is defined as:
The person with this anger style is more indirect and “sneaky” in their anger, and may choose more subtle forms of expressing their anger, sometimes through subtle revenge and passive aggression
Crafty Anger Style
What are the characteristics of a Aggressive person?
Interrupting, speaking more loud then necessary, Intimidation, controlling, Aggressive and invasive touching. Ect Cet.
What are the benefits of letting go of resentment?
More energy for yourself, More time to focus on positive thinking. Not desiring something that may not be possible (restitution or retribution). Ect Cet.
What IS forgiveness (Not the definition)
-The decision to overcome pain that was inflicted by another person.
-Letting go of anger, resentment, shame, and other emotions associated with an injustice, even though they are reasonable feelings.
-Treating the offender with compassion, even though they are not entitled to it.
-A process
How long does the average craving last?
7 minutes on average, but they can last a few seconds to even an hour
Why might someone develop an intimidating anger style?
Reasons can be:
They find it easier to get what they want that way.
Control
Avoiding Self-examination
Ect. cet.
What are the characteristics of an assertive person?
Making eye contact, calm demeaner, "I'm okay, your okay". Ect cet.
From what emotion does resentment come from? And what are the reasons one might feel that emotion?
Anger - Hurt - Similar
Feeling under Threat, or that their is a wrong that needs to be righted.
What are some of the Roadblocks to forgiveness?
Things like retaliation, Grudges, Bitterness, Ruminations, Blaming.
Which brain system gets hijacked by drug use?
(Not part, function!)
The reward system