Anger
This emotional state varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage, according to the American Psychological Association.
What is the underlying emotion for this example:
I became angry when my friend cancelled our plans last minute.
DOUBLE POINTS IF YOU CAN NAME 2
What is this a definition of?
The persistent feeling that you're being treated unfairly – not getting due respect, appreciation, affect, help, apology, consideration, praise, or reward.
List 2 things forgiveness is not.
oReconciliation (repairing or returning to a relationship)
oForgetting the injustice
oCondoning or excusing a behavior
oGranting legal mercy to the offender
o"Letting go" but wishing for revenge
What is the definition of impulsivity?
The inability to stop oneself from engaging in certain behaviors; at times, the behaviors violate the rights of others or conflict with societal norms and the law.
What is the definition of rejection?
What is the spurning of another's approval?
What are the 4 attachment styles?
1. Secure
2. Anxious/ Preoccupied
3. Avoidant-Dismissing
4. Disorganized
What are the 4 dysfunctional family roles?
What is Hero, Scapegoat, Lost Child, Mascot?
What are the 3 Roles for enabling?
What is Rescuer/ Caretaker, Provoker, Martyr?
This disorder is characterized by persistent sadness, a lack of interest in activities, and feelings of hopelessness.
What is Depression?
Anger is often a secondary emotion that stems from these types of feelings, such as fear, sadness, or disappointment
What are Underlying Emotions?
What is the underlying emotion for this
"I was angry when I didn't get the promotion I was promised."
Double points if you can list 2
What is disappointment, sadness, and hopelessness?
Resentment often starts as anger but solidifies over time like this construction material.
What is concrete?
What are the 4 phases of forgiveness?
1. Uncovering phase
2. Decision phase
3. Work phase
4. Deepening phaseWhat are the 3 types of impulsivity?
Triple points if you can define each of those
What is Motor, Cognitive, and Non-planning?
How is rejection traced back to early life experiences?
What is being excluded by peers or feeling unloved by caregivers. It can also be caused by traumatic experiences of rejection or abandonment in adolescence?
What attachment style is this:
confident in exploring their environment while maintaining a strong bond with their caregiver.
When separated, they may be upset, but they are easily comforted upon reunion.
They view their caregiver as a reliable, supportive source of comfort and safety.
What is Secure Attachment Style?
What role is this:
Typically identifies with the values of their family and will attempt to preform perfectly to keep the family together. Family feels they are not so bad because this person is so good.
Outside appearance: perfect, can't be wrong, positive attention, super-responsible, always wants to be in control, and high achiever
Internal feelings: fear of failing, over-controlled
What is the Hero?
What enabling role is this:
Doesn't let the incidents become a "problem," by attempting to cover them up.
Denies it, never mentions it, lies, protects from consequences
What is Rescuer/caretaker?
This disorder is marked by excessive worry and fear, often about situations that may not be as threatening as the person perceives them.
What is Anxiety?
Anger becomes a problem when it negatively impacts these three aspects of daily life.
What are relationships, work, and mental/physical health?
Give me 3 examples of the physical warning signs of anger.
Double points if you can list them all
•Racing Heart
•Tightness in Chest
•Sweating
•Clenched Jaw
•Fast Breathing
•Headache
•Upset Stomach
•Tense Muscles
•Frowning/Scowling
•Turning Red
•Becoming Physically Abusive
Resentment can develop from three types of injury what are they? List 1, but double points if you can list them all.
What someone did to us, what they didn’t do, what they didn't do enough of.
What phase is this?
During this phase, you will gain a deeper understanding of what forgiveness is, and make the decision to choose or reject forgiveness as an option.
What is the decision phase?
What is the difference between impulsivity and spontaneity?
Double points if you can give an example
Impulsivity often carries the additional risk of causing harm to oneself or others by making sudden, unreasonable or dangerous choices. Spontaneity is generally make a spur-of-the-moment decision that results in positive outcomes and does not place the individual or others around them at risk of consequences.
Ex: You’re out with friends and, in the moment, decide to try a new dish you’ve never had before. It’s unplanned, but there’s no negative consequence, and you enjoy the experience.
What can experiences of rejection lead to? List 2
Double points if you can list 6 or triple points if you can list all 8 listed on the PowerPoint
•Difficulty managing anger, hostility/aggression, or passive-aggressive communication
•Dependence on others for affirmation
•Defensive independence; this is a coping skill in which one craves acceptance but, in the face of potential rejection, adamantly denies this and rejects any offers for support
•Negative self-esteem; poor image of self, beliefs that one is unlovable or unworthy
•Negative self-adequacy; comparison to others and a feeling of inadequacy or incompetence
•Emotional instability
•Emotional unresponsiveness
•A negative worldview
What attachment style is this:
often seem indifferent when their caregiver leaves or returns.
They tend to suppress their emotions and avoid seeking comfort from their caregiver, often appearing self-reliant.
These children may not show much distress during separation.
What is Avoidant/ Dismissing Attachment Style?
What role is this:
This individual will do almost anything to attract the attention of the family. This individual brings comic relief to the family, and helps the family avoid their issues.
Outside appearance: funny, anything for a laugh, cute, immature
Internal feelings: hides pain with humor, scared, feels inadequate
Possible with support: can feel a range of emotions, can use laughter appropriately, learns to take lead more, and grows up in more responsibility
What is the Mascot?
What enabling role is this:
Is ashamed of the addiction and lets them know by action and words.
Isolates, becomes withdrawn and depressed, feelings of guilt/shame
What is Martyr?
A person with this disorder may experience extreme mood swings, ranging from manic highs to depressive lows.
What is Bipolar Disorder?
This term refers to unrealistic expectations of the world, such as expecting all traffic lights to be green on the way to work.
What are expectations of the world?
Give me 3 signs of emotional warning signs of anger
Double points if you can list them all
oDisrespect
oGuilt
oInsecurity
oRejection
oJealousy
oAbandonment
oFear
oInjustice
One major way to prevent resentment is to focus on this, instead of past injuries or imagined future offenses
What is the present moment?
What phase is this?
During this phase, you will further decrease the negative emotions associated with the injustice. You may find meaning in the experiences, and recognize ways in which you have grown as a result.
What is the deepening phase?
Double points if you can give an example
Unlike spontaneity versus impulsivity, both compulsivity and impulsivity can be problematic. Impulsive behaviors are poorly planned, risky, and provide instant gratification, while causing problems in the long run. Compulsive behaviors, on the other hand, are repetitive, ritualistic, and aimed at gaining a sense of security in the moment but do little to advance a person’s long-term goals.
Ex. You feel extreme anxiety about germs, so you repeatedly wash your hands, even when they are already clean. You do this not because you want to but because you feel an overwhelming urge to reduce your anxiety.
List 2 of the 4 ways you can respond to rejection.
Double points if you can list all 4 that were listed in the PowerPoint
•Explore the root of rejection in your life: Acknowledge from whom you experienced rejection, identify how this altered your behaviors and worldview, and challenge unrealistic or distorted beliefs.
•Celebrate your successes and reinforce positive self-views
•Practice working on any resentments and implementing forgiveness
•Identify the signs of trustworthy and emotionally safe people; develop a support system.
What attachment style is this:
Children with this attachment style become very distressed when separated from their caregiver.
Upon reunion, they may not feel fully comforted and might continue to seek reassurance.
These children often show clinginess and anxiety about abandonment.
What is Anxious/ Preoccupied Attachment Style?
What role is this:
Receives attention at home typically by acting out or will deliberately cause trouble just to escape boredom. This individual takes the stress off the family
Outside appearance: "bad," angry, impulsive, never good enough, "black sheep" of the family, doesn't fit in
Internal feelings: hurt, rejection, full of shame, feels like a loser
Possible with support: can learn to be good and feel good, take appropriate risks
What is the Scapegoat?
What enabling role is this:
Punishes the addict for their actions.
Scolds, nags, ridicules, belittles. Is angry and lets everyone know it. Threatens to leave, but never does
What is provoker?
This eating disorder involves restricting food intake, an intense fear of gaining weight, and a distorted body image.
What is Anorexia Nervosa?
One way to recognize anger early is by noticing physical warning signs such as a racing heart, clenched jaw, and these other two common symptoms.
What are fast breathing and tense muscles?
List 2 cognitive warning signs of anger
Double points if you can list them all
•Thoughts of:
oRevenge
oHurting Others
oAssuming the Other Person's Intention
oSomething Bad is Going to Happen
Who wrote this quote:
"Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies."
Nelson Mandela
What phase is this
During this phase, you will start to understand the offender in a new way, which will allow positive feelings toward the offender and yourself.
What is the work phase?
Give me 4 examples of impulsive behaviors
•Excessive Spending
•Risky sexual behavior
•Combative and assaultive behaviors
•Substance abuse
•Recklessness
•Excessive risk-taking
•Gambling
•Binge eating
•Interrupting/Intrusive thoughts
•Episodes of emotional detachment/emotional outbursts
•Starting fires
•Lying
•Aggression/Destruction of property
What are the 3 ways that are listed in the PowerPoint of how you should respond to rejection?
•Stay calm: It can be easy to see rejection as an attack and become defensive or angry.
•See all sides: Consider the alternatives to why the person declined or responded the way they did. Are there scenarios in which their response has nothing to do with you as a person?
•Be patient: Trust is easily lost and difficult to earn. Many people in our lives may not be ready or able to see the changes you've made, yet.
What attachment style is this:
display a mix of behaviors, showing both avoidance and anxiety.
They often behave in confused, inconsistent ways, such as approaching the caregiver but then retreating or showing fear.
This style is often the result of traumatic or inconsistent caregiving (e.g., abuse, neglect).
What is Disorganized Attachment Style?
What role is this:
Has a hard time connecting with their family unit and turns their back on the family. This individual fades into the background, and the family feels they do not need to worry about this individual.
Outside appearance: ignored, quiet, invisible, values material possessions, artistic, possible learning disabilities
Internal feelings: frozen feelings, can't express feelings, lonely
Possible with support: talented and creative, can learn to participate and share wisdom they achieve by being quieter, good listener, feels needed and connected with time
What is the Lost Child?
What is the 5 patterns we talked about with codependency?
What is Denial, control, compliance, low-self esteem, avoidance?
A person with this disorder may experience delusions and hallucinations and may have difficulty distinguishing between reality and false perceptions.
What is Schizophrenia?