Shark Bones
Type of music you hear when you feel danger.
What is shark music?
Sharing affection with your child but welcomes distance
What is safety sensitive?
knowing someone has your back
what is secure attachment?
Hands on the circle
what is parents and caregiving?
bigger, stronger, wiser, kind
what should you always be?
step off the circle of security intentionally or inadvertently
What is a rupture?
I constantly scan signs for something is wrong in my relationship.
Careseeking, exploration, and caregiving
What are the subsystems of attachment?
giving just enough help to allow children to learn how to do it themselves
What is scaffolding
Follow my child's need
What should you do whenever possible?
Triggered by painful memories and thoughts harmful to us growing up
What is shark music?
I look to other people for negative and positive perceptions they have.
What is esteem sensitive triggers?
two-person comfort zone of attachment
what is a dyadic regulatory system?
only need to be found on the top and bottom of the circle of security
what is delight in me
Take charge
What should you do whenever necessary?
Nervous about your child's attempt at autonomy and also struggle with asserting parental authority
What is separation sensitivity?
I watch for people being too close, dominant, or manipulative.
What is Safety sensitive triggers?
Top of the circle of security
What is exploration?
What is acting out
Make things better when you've stepped off the circle of security
What is repair?
read all the parenting books so your children aren't average
What is Esteem sensitive?
Help a child feel safe, secure, and accept and manage emotional experience
What is gifts of attachment?
Bottom of the circle of security
What is careseeking?
knowing a parent is emotionally available to be-with the child whenever needed
heart of secure attachment
word that should be deleted from a parenting vocabulary
what is perfection?