Reaction type
“can you please not do that, I don’t like it”.
passive 🐢 , Aggressive 🦓 , assertive 🦉?
Assertive 🦉
Hitting someone when you’re mad is reacting passively 🐢
true or false
False. This would be aggression.
What does it mean to be assertive 🦉
(provide examples)
Expressing our wants and needs
creating boundaries
saying no/yes
Someone breaks your favorite pencil. How do you respond?
Ex. I am upset you broke my pencil, can you help me fix it?
Sally yelled at her mom because she did not want to do the dishes.
fix Sally’s response
Ex. Sally asked her mom if she could do them later.
“Knock it off!”
passive 🐢, Aggressive 🦓, assertive 🦉?
Aggressive 🦓
It is best to act assertively 🦉.
true or false
True! It is important to always react assertively.
What does it mean to be passive 🐢
To not express your wants and needs
allow others to make boundaries for you
Staying quiet
always saying yes
Your teacher asks you to clean up, but you aren’t finished. How do you react?
Ex. Ask the teacher if you can have a few more minutes to finish.
Kory lied to his teacher and said he already finished the work so he could get on the computer.
Fix Kori‘s decision.
ex. Kory asks for help finishing his work so he can get on the computer.
”If that’s what you want”
passive 🐢, Aggressive 🦓, assertive 🦉?
Passive 🐢
People will respect you if you act aggressively 🦓
true or false
False, aggression will not benefit your personal relationships.
What does it mean to be Aggressive 🦓
(give examples)
Hurting others emotionally
hurting others physically
yelling
name calling
unfairness
saying “no” all the time
Someone says something that makes you feel uncomfortable. How do you respond?
Ex. Can you please not talk like that when I‘m around?
You accidentally flushed something down the toilet that did not belong there. When the teacher asks what happened you tell them it wasn’t you.
fix the decision.
Ex. Immediately ask the instructor for help so that it can be easily fixed.
“I would like just cheese on my pizza”
passive 🐢, Aggressive 🦓, assertive 🦉?
Assertive 🦉
You will be satisfied if you act passively 🐢
true or false
False. Acting passively is not advocating for yourself, and will not make you feel comfortable.
What does it mean to be Passive Aggressive 🐢🦓
Sarcasm
saying things you don’t mean
Your friend always sits in the front seat, but you want a turn. How do you handle the situation?
Ex. Ask the friend “can I please have a turn, I really want to sit there too”.
Martha does not like what her friend is talking about. Martha chooses to interrupt her friend every time they try speaking.
fix Martha’s response
Ex. Martha interrupted her friend by saying “excuse me”, then telling her “can we not talk about this, I don’t like it“.
Someone is wearing a hat that you do not like, so you tell them “nice hat”
passive 🐢, Aggressive 🦓, assertive 🦉?
this example is two of these!
Passive Aggressive 🐢🦓
passive Aggression is similar to being sarcastic. Sarcasm is still not an appropriate reaction.
Your friend said hurtful things to you, and you don’t know if you can forgive him. You choose to respond with agression 🦓 and call them names. This is an appropriate response.
true or false
False, even if someone hurts our feelings, two wrongs do not Make a right. Remember to react assertively 🦉
Setting boundaries
taking breaks
communicating wants and needs
not having task overload
Your teacher asks you to do a worksheet, but you’d rather listen to music. What should you do?
Ex. Compromise with the teacher and wait until break time when you can appropriately play music.
Ethan’s friend was not listening to him, so he hit them.
fix Ethan’s reaction.
Ex. Ethan tapped his friend on the shoulder and asked if they could listen to him.