Reaction type
“Please stop, I don’t like it”.
passive 🐢 , Aggressive 🦓 , assertive 🦉?
Assertive 🦉
Hitting someone when you’re mad is reacting passively 🐢
true or false
False. This would be aggression.
What does it mean to be assertive 🦉
(provide examples)
Expressing our wants and needs
creating boundaries
saying no/yes
Someone breaks your favorite pencil. How do you respond?
Ex. I needed that pencil, please help me fix it.
Sally yelled at her mom because she did not want to do the dishes.
Fix Sally’s response
Ex. Sally politely asked her mom if she could do them later.
(Yelling) “Knock it off!”
passive 🐢, Aggressive 🦓, assertive 🦉?
Aggressive 🦓
It is best to act assertively 🦉.
true or false
True! Being assertive is the best chance of getting what you want
What does it mean to be passive 🐢
To not express your wants and needs
allow others to make boundaries for you
Staying quiet
always saying yes
Your teacher asks you to clean up, but you aren’t finished. How do you react?
Ex. Ask the teacher if you can have a few more minutes to finish.
Kory lied to his teacher and said he already finished the work so he could get on the computer.
Fix Kori‘s decision.
ex. Kory asks for help finishing his work so he can finish it and then get on the computer.
”Oh, ok, sure, we can do that”
passive 🐢, Aggressive 🦓, assertive 🦉?
Passive 🐢
People will respect you if you act aggressively 🦓
true or false
False, aggression will make people feel frightened, angry, or defensive.
What does it mean to be Aggressive 🦓
(give examples)
Hurting others emotionally
hurting others physically
yelling
name calling
unfairness
saying “no” all the time
Someone says something that makes you feel uncomfortable. How do you respond?
Ex. I feel uncomfortable when you talk like that. I would like it if you didn't talk that way around me
The person sitting at your table keeps bumping your foot. You say loudly, "Stop kicking me!"
Fix your decision
Option 1 Move your chair
Option 2 Say calmly, "Could you please not bump me with your foot?"
“I would like just cheese on my pizza”
passive 🐢, Aggressive 🦓, assertive 🦉?
Assertive 🦉
You will be satisfied if you act passively 🐢
true or false
False. Acting passively is not advocating for yourself, and will not make you feel comfortable.
Is Passive Aggressive 🐢🦓 kind, or unkind?
unkind!
Your friend always sits in the front seat, but you want a turn. How do you handle the situation?
"I feel frustrated when you always sit in the front and I never get a turn. I would like a turn. I like to sit in the front, too”.
Martha and her friend have been talking about the same thing for most of lunch time. Martha is tired of this subject, so she chooses to interrupt her friend every time they try speaking.
Fix Martha’s response
Ex. Martha interrupted her friend by saying, “Excuse me. We've been talking about this for quite a while. I'd like to change the subject. What else can we talk about?“
Someone is wearing a hat that you do not like, so you tell them “nice hat”
passive 🐢, Aggressive 🦓, assertive 🦉?
this example is two of these!
Passive Aggressive 🐢🦓
passive Aggression is similar to being sarcastic.
Your friend said hurtful things to you, and you don’t know if you can forgive him. You choose to respond with agression 🦓 and call them names. This is an appropriate response.
true or false
False, even if someone hurts our feelings, two wrongs do not Make a right. Remember to react assertively 🦉
Are these passive, assertive, or aggressive:
Setting boundaries
taking breaks
communicating wants and needs
Assertive
Your teacher asks you to do a worksheet, but you’d rather draw. What should you do?
Ex. Compromise with the teacher and wait until break time to draw.
Ethan’s friend was not listening to him, so he hit them to get their attention.
Fix Ethan’s reaction.
Option 1 Ethan tapped his friend on the shoulder and asked if they could listen to him.
Option 2 Ethan said, "Is everything OK? I feel like you're not listening to me."