Attachment 101
The theory that our bond with early caregivers shapes our adult relationships
What is Attachment Theory
A common fear for someone with Anxious Attachment
What is fear of abandonment?
A core value for the avoidant style
What is independence?
A secure person feels this way about intimacy
What is comfortable?
A healthy way to handle disagreements
What is open communication?
A caregiver who is a source of safety to return to in times of distress
What is a safe haven?
Needing this from your partner to calm your worries
What is frequent reassurance?
When a partner tries to get too close, it can feel like this
What is threatening or suffocating?
You can communicate you needs in this way
What is directly or effectively?
Taking a moment to breath before you react in an argument
What is taking a pause or self-regulation?
The four main attachment styles
What are Secure, Anxious, Avoidant and Fearful-Avoidant?
In childhood, the caregiver's availability was often this
What is inconsistent?
A common reaction to conflict for this style
What is withdrawing or shutting down?
This is the ability to calm your own strong emotions
What is self-soothing or emotional regulation?
A limit you set to protect your well-being
What is a boundary?
Attachment patters refer to this
What is internal view of self and others?
This is the term for being overly focused on a partner's moods and needs
What is preoccupied?
In childhood, caregivers were often this way
What is emotionally distant or unavailable?
Regarding love, believing that you are this
What is worthy of love?
Trying to see a situation from your partner's perspective
What is empathy?
This attachment style is often the result of childhood trauma or abuse
What is Fearful Avoidant or Disorganized Attachment?
Anxious attachment can sometimes be called this
What is Preoccupied Attachment?
Avoidant attachment can sometimes be called this
What is Dismissive Attachment?
You're core belief is this
What is "I am worthy of love and I can trust others to be there for me"?
This journey is about giving yourself the security you may not have received as a child
What is Earned Secure Attachment?