Secure Attachment
Individuals are characterized as being:
- Empathetic
-Able to set appropriate boundaries
-Affectionate with my partner
-Able to effectually resolve conflicts
What is secure attachment?
Individuals are characterized as:
-Giving up their needs to please others and accommodate
-Preoccupied and highly attuned to your partner
-Worried that partner wants less closeness
What is Anxious/Ambivalent Attachment?
Individuals are:
-Easily able to cut off difficult emotions
-Instead of craving intimacy, they are wary of closeness
-Insist on independence and self-reliance
What is Dismissive-Avoidant attachment
Individuals are:
-Conscious of wanting closeness but distrust or are fearful of it
-Afraid of being both too close to or too distant from others.
What is Disorganized/Disoriented; aka Fearful Avoidant attachment?
Name two group members and 2 things you appreciate about them.
Yes 2!
Name 2 benefits of secure attachment
1. Provides a sense of safety and security
2. Regulates emotions by soothing distress, creating joy, and supporting calm.
3. More long- term healthy relationships
4. Increased ability to trust others
What Anxious/Ambivalent Attachment is rooted in
Fear of abandonment and an insecurity of being underappreciated.
How individuals with this style are characterized
Strongly Independent
How individuals with this style are characterized
Socially avoidant
The most ideal/beneficial attachment style
Secure Attachment
People with secure attachment are still not p_____________.
People with secure attachment are still not PERFECT. Security should not be equated with perfection; Individuals with secure attachment have conflict and bad days like everyone else
What individuals with Anxious Attachment struggle with
1.Insecurriy
2. Low self-esteem
3. Establishing a strong sense of self
Way of acting when partner threatens to leave them
Shut emotions down and pretend to not care
If not careful, this is the possible consequence of having this attachment style
Individuals can end up in abusive relationships
Why is it important to understand attachment styles?
Important if you want to grow as a person and have healthier relationships
A characteristic about secure attachment individuals that allows them to navigate conflicts better
Higher emotional intelligence- allows them to communicate their feelings effectively and problem solve
True or False: Individuals with an Anxious/Ambivalent attachment likely to constantly second guess themselves
TRUE
What individuals with Anxious Attachment struggle with
1. Swing from emotional extremes
2. May exhibit antisocial or negative patterns of behaviors
3. Feelings of unworthiness
What Fearful-Avoidant Attachment can be linked to
Can be linked to negative outcomes, such as:
- a higher risk of social anxiety and depression as well as less fulfilling relationships
The earliest experience we have with attachment styles
Our relationship with our parents or caregiver creates an "attachment style"—a blueprint for how we handle close relationships later.
Name 2 ways to build secure attachments
1. LEARNING TO LOVE OURSELVES
2. Working on our self-esteem
3. Learning to be assertive and express feelings
4. Learning to resolve conflict without manipulation
How to combat this style of attachment
1. Learning to be aware of this attachment style and how it influences our relationships
2. Taking steps to modify undesirable behaviors
How to combat this attachment style
1. Learning to understand our emotions and control them
2.Developing emotional awareness
3. Learning to manage stress
4. Being present
How to combat this style of attachment
1. Working on communication with others
2. Learning to be more open and talking about feelings and fears
2. Defining and vocalizing boundaries with others
What are the four types of attachment styles
1. Secure Attachment
2. Anxious/Ambivalent Attachment
3. Dismissive/Avoidant Attachment
4. Disorganized/Disoriented; aka Fearful-Avoidant Attachment