Getting to Know People
What is a good question to ask someone if you're first getting to know them?
What's your name?
What're your interests?
How are you?
What do you like/dislike?
Which is the best answer to finish the statement: A New Years resolution be something that:
a). Takes about a year to achieve
b). Would take a long long time to achieve
A!
A New Years Resolution should be something that takes about a year or less to achieve. (so you can make a new one next year!)
List 3 traits that would make a good friend
Kind
Caring
Shared Interests
Funny
Listens to me
And Many More!!!
What are some good and easy topics we can talk about? (Conversation Initiators)
Something you’ve done with that person/people in the past
Plans for the upcoming holidays/weekend
Current events
Books/movies/shows that might be of interest to everyone
And more!
TRUE OR FALSE
Your tone of voice can kind of give people clues about how you’re feeling
True!
Your tone can be silly, or serious, or friendly, and that gives others clues about how you are feeling!
Which is a better question to ask when getting to know someone?
a). What is your favorite movie?
b). How much do you weigh?
c). UGH I WILL NEVER ASK ANYONE ANYTHING
A!
Asking a simple question like this can help you form connections or get to know them a little more
B is a little too personal to ask someone when you meet, and may make them feel uncomfortable
C is just a silly response because we sure hope you are open to get to know people!! :)
TRUE OR FALSE
A New Years resolution is something that has a positive impact on you
True!
Resolutions are usually something people want to do to be a better version on themselves… so the things we pick to be our resolution should be a good thing!
TRUE OR FALSE
A good friend is someone who will gossip about me, and spread rumors
FALSE!
Good and true friends would not do that to you. That person sounds more like a bully.
What qualities can lead to good conversation?
(example: everyone can contribute to the conversation)
It matches the setting
It is something all people are interested in
Not hurtful
Any more!
Fill in the blank:
Sometimes, it helps to think of your voice as a _ _______.
Hint: a think that can stay low, or rise. Or stay in the middle!
thermometer!
When you are calm and cool, your voice volume is low. But, as you become upset or excited, your voice volume tends to rise just like a thermometer
Fill in the Blank:
When we meet new people, we make and keep a “people ___” in our brain about them so we can remember the things about them like their interests, likes and dislikes, and facts about them
File!
A "people file" is where we can store all the information on the people we meet
Finish the sentence of something that works for you:
My New Years Resolution is to _______
Share your own! :)
TRUE OR FALSE
If I have 1 really good friend, it is just as valuable as someone with 15 really good friends
TRUE!
Everyone has different relationships, and may have different circumstances. Have 1 really good friend CAN BE JUST AS VALUABLE as someone with 15 really good friends. :)
What qualities lead to maybe a not so great conversation?
(example: it hurts someone's feelings)
No one else can contribute
It's an uncomfortable topic
It's too personal for the group (if you don't know the person very well, or this is your first time meeting)
And more!
What voice volume matches this setting:
A crowded and energetic basketball game
Loud Volume - This would work best because the environment you're in is also loud, and the people around you may not hear you if you're too quiet
Can anyone think of a question to ask the group to get to know the members of our group?
Hint: Think of a question that multiple people can respond to
Ask away!
Which is a better example of a New Years resolution:
a). When I get older I want to be a professional baseball play
b). I am currently in 10th grade, and my New Years resolution is to graduate HS
c). I want to stop biting my nails this year
C!
This is an example of something that can be accomplished this year, if I take the right steps to do so.
A & B are examples of things that can be goals for sure! But don't really fit a New Years resolution because they would take a longer amount of time
Where is a good environment to make friends?
School
Work
Playing Sport
Doing Hobbies / Other Organized Activities
Clubs
And More!
How does it feel when a conversation goes well?
Good! May feel accomplished or proud
What voice volume matches this setting:
The Library at school or in your community
Soft Volume - would work the best, so you do not disturb the people around you who may be trying to focus or do work
What is one thing you have learned about someone in this class?
Share what you've learned !
When do people generally make New Years Resolutions?
The first of the year (January 1st)!
Why is it good to have a friend or someone you can talk to?
They can serve as a support system and someone you trust!
Which is the best answer to the question: If I don't have a great conversation with someone....
a). I should never try to have a conversation ever again
b). The other person probably hates me, and I am doomed
c). I can try again next time, and use some of my skills or conversation imitators
C !
We don't always have great conversations - happens to all of us! No biggy!
We can always try again, and if possible we can plan ahead and think up some good conversation initiators to use. Conversations take practice!
If you were in a serious setting, like school or work, and your volume was LOUD and your tone was SILLY, how might the people around you feel?
They may feel: Distracted, Annoyed, Confused, Angry, etc.
BONUS +100 points : What volume and tone would match this setting more?
BONUS +200 points: What can you say or do to make the people around you feel better, when you realize your volume and tone didn't match the setting?