Conversations
Name 3 ways you can tell your conversation partner is not "into" the conversation.
avoiding eye contact with you; not facing their body toward you; not answering; nodding their had a lot; saying "mhmm" a lot; not asking any questions; looks confused; keep trying to change the topic, ETC.
“You been a real brother to me,” Darrell said. “I . . . I love you, man,” Darrell blurted, his voice melting into embarrassing sobs.
Malik grabbed Darrell and gave him a bear hug.
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BONUS: What skill did you use when answering this question?
If you're unsure if a behavior is EXPECTED or UNEXPECTED, and you do it anyway, how can you determine if what you did was right or wrong?
Look at the reactions of others, were they upset with me, uncomfortable around me? Did I get in trouble? Were they happy with me? Did I make someone happy?
Why can it be hard to take someone else's perspective at times?
Because you may feel very strongly about something and have trouble understanding another side.
What are two different ways to go about getting yourself out of a conversation where you know you feel VERY strongly about the topic and you know that you are capable of getting very argumentative and you don't want to let yourself get that way?
1. tell your friends that you have to make a phone call or you have to get somewhere (don't let them know that you don't want to get heated; just get yourself out of the situation)
2. let your friends know that you'd rather not discuss this topic because you have some strong feelings that you'd rather not let out; and if they still want to talk about it, then you can politely excuse yourself (be honest and let them know you can get really agitated by the topic, and show them you're mature enough to avoid doing so...BUT you cannot hold it against them if they want to continue the conversation, it's their right to do so, you have to be in control of yourself and make the right choice for YOU and walk away)