Evaluating Situations
True or False: Is hitting your friend on the back of the head an okay way to say hi?
FALSE-there are some playful, ways say hello (high five, light tap on the shoulder) but hitting people on the head (especially from behind) is not okay.
Name 3 things you can do if you think bullying is happening.
-tell the person with bullying actions, "please stop" in a firm (but not rude) voice
-change the activity or conversation to something positive
-ask the person being bullied if they are okay
-take the person away from the bullying actions
-get an adult for help
-talk to an adult about the problem (if it's already over)
-use an "i-message" to say how you feel and what you want to stop
Is it safe to leave the playground?
No, the boundaries of the playground are important to keep you safe. It is not safe to leave.
Tony never gets a chance to be the leader in the game. How do you think Tony feels about this?
Frustrated, mad, sad, confused.
What does Self-Control mean?
It means controlling your body, your actions and your words.
True or False: If a classmate totally misses the basket during PE class, it is okay to laugh with your friends about it, if you only do it once in a while.
False.
This behavior is always mean. We all have our strengths and some kids may not be as good at sports as other kids.
Saying "good try!" or just staying quiet is a better choice.
True or False: If someone has acted in unkind ways over and over again, this means that they are a bad person and should be labeled a bully.
FALSE. A person may have done bullying actions but giving the name of "bully" isn't helpful. EVERYONE deserves a chance to fix their mistakes. No one is perfect.
Is it safe to push others when the line needs to keep moving?
No, it's never safe to push others, using words is more safe.
True or False: Empathy and caring a lot about what someone else might be feeling are the same thing.
TRUE.
Empathy means having the ability to understand the feelings of another person (and even feel what they may feel).
Ex: If a friend drops their lunch, you might feel the feelings you think they may be having (sadness, frustration or embarrassment).
Name a situation where it may be difficult to have self-control?
It may be hard to have self-control:
-when playing with friends
-during recess
-during competitions
-at lunch
-on field trips
-when we have extra energy
-when we don't feel well
-when we have big feelings
There is a difference between "fun joking" and "mean joking".
Is joking with your friend about how much they LOVE the color green an example of "fun" joking or "mean" joking?
FUN! Having silly jokes and playful teasing is part of friendships.
True or False: If you notice something you don't think looks good about how someone looks (their hairstyle, how big or small they are, their skin color etc) you should definitely keep these thoughts inside your own head.
TRUE!
Commenting on how someone else looks (especially in an unkind way) is NEVER okay.
When we have mean thoughts like this, we can remind ourselves that we are all unique and there is no "right way" to look.
True or False: Words don't hurt people, only hitting and kicking things like that actually hurt people.
FALSE.
Words can hurt. People's feelings get harmed by words. It is important to help others feel safe by using only kind, helpful words.
Why is practicing empathy important?
When we practice having empathy, we learn that even though we are all different, we ALL MATTER.
It also reminds us that we are ALL WORKING on something and no one is perfect. We can care more about others when we have empathy.
Name a strategy that can help with self control?
-Take a walk
-Think about the consequence of NOT having self-control
-Ask for space
-Talk to someone about your feelings
-Take 3 slow, deep breaths
-Count to 10
-Squeeze hands and release
----AND MORE!
Jenny and Lenaya sometimes have arguments about things (which way to do the class project, what rules to use for games etc). Because of this, they usually just stay away from each other and don't hang out a lot.
True or False: It is OKAY for Jenny to tell her friends not to hang out with Lenaya, since Jenny doesn't get along with her.
FALSE.
Not everyone mixes well together, and that is okay!
However, our friends CAN have other friends too. We do not "own" friends and we can all make our own choices.
True or False: It is important to tell an adult IMMEDIATELY if someone does or says something that you don't like.
FALSE.
You can tell someone you don't like what they did or said or asking them to stop FIRST.
If it continues, you MAY need to get adult support.
TRUE OR FALSE:
Rules are important to have in school in order to keep everyone safe.
TRUE.
Rules help us to know what is okay and not okay, so we don't hurt ourselves or other people with our words or bodies.
Liddy and Mena do the same math activity.
Liddy says "this was FUN!"
Mena says "this was CONFUSING!"
Which person is correct?
BOTH!
We are all different and special- and have things that are easy and hard for us.
This is what helps create our own unique "perspective".
True or False: If someone has an opinion about something it MUST be said out loud, right away.
FALSE.
We can keep our opinions on the inside unless a teacher or friend is asking what we think.
Self-control is learning to NOT interrupt our friends or teachers to share our thoughts or opinions right away.
Joey called Carlos a "loser" at the end of music class when Carlos accidentally bumped into him walking back to class. Carlos felt embarrassed but it passed quickly and never happened again.
True or False: Carlos was bullied by Joey.
FALSE.
It was NOT an okay thing to say, and Joey made a mistake calling Carlos a name. (Just like Carlos made a mistake when he bumped into Joey).
However it only happened one time so it's not bullying. It was unkind behavior.
True or False: An "I statement" is a good way to tell someone how you feel?
TRUE.
I STATEMENT FORMAT---
I feel _______ (emotion) when you_______ (behavior). Could you please ________ (request)?
ex. "I feel sad and embarrassed when you say my lunch is smelly. Could you please not do that anymore?"
TRUE or FALSE:
It's okay to lightly toss your pencil to your friend across the room.
FALSE.
Even if it is lightly tossed, this could be unsafe if someone got up to move and it hit them.
TRUE OR FALSE: Perspective taking means being able to looking at something in a different way
TRUE.
Perspective taking means being able to know how someone else may be feeling or looking at a situation.
It helps us to be flexible thinkers and not make problems bigger.
True or False: All of Janelle's friends start to make mean jokes about someone at lunch. Janelle can show self-control by saying something like "come on guys, that's not cool" or changing the subject, rather than joining in.
TRUE.
Janelle can STOP herself from saying mean things just because everyone else is doing it.
Are there other ways you can have self-control with friends?