Nonverbal Communication
How far apart should we be when talking to someone?
An arm's length away.
What is the percent of time we should be talking in a conversation?
50%
What is an example of a question you could ask about the past?
How was your weekend?
How was your vacation?
Did you see what happened in the Bengals game?
What is a reason you could give for ending the conversation?
"I am sorry, but I have to go because I am running late to my next class"
"I have to get going to get started on my homework"
"I have to get going to eat dinner"
"I have to head to math class"
What are places where we can find potential friends who may share some of our interests?
Clubs (e.g., music, photography, chess, science fiction, theatre, sports, anime), teams through school or community centers (e.g., chess, athletics, debate, math, chorus, or musical bands), teen activities or groups for autistic teens.
What are examples of aspects of our body language that show that we are interested in what others are saying?
Turning your body toward others, leaning in slightly, and making some eye contact.
What is the kind of questions we should ask to keep the conversation going?
"WH" questions
What is an example of a question you could ask about the future?
What are you going to do this weekend?
What are you going to do after school?
What is an example of a transition phrase?
"By the way, did you hear about..." or "Speaking of..."
What is the definition of a friend?
Someone who you like and who likes you; someone who seeks you out to communicate, spend time together, and share experiences with; someone you have common interests with, similar ways of thinking, or common experiences with.
What are aspects of our facial expressions that show that we are interested in what others are saying?
Smiling, and open face (versus flat facial expression).
What is the same-question rule? Provide an example.
When others ask you a question and you answer it, you can ask a similar question right back. For example, when someone says, "How was your weekend?" we can say, "It was good, I went to the movies, how was your weekend?"
What is an example of a question you could ask about the present?
What are you up to?
What are you reading?
How do you like this class?
I like your shirt! Where did you get it?
What are examples of ways to ask if it is okay to change the topic?
"Is it okay if I change the topic?"
"Can I share something else with you?"
"Can I tell you about something else?"
What is the three strikes rule?
If you have asked to hang out or made at least three attempts over several weeks to contact them and they said no or did not respond, then they may not be interested, and you should not pursue them unless they later ask you to hang out.
What should our tone of voice be like when we are talking to others?
Use just enough volume so others can hear us, try not to speak too fast, and use a pleasant tone of voice instead of an angry tone.
What are three ways to keep the conversation going?
Ask questions, make comments, and answer your own question.
What is the first step for starting a conversation with someone we know?
Greeting the person by saying "Hi" or "How are you?" the first time you see the person during the day.
What are four strategies for repairing a conversation?
1) Say "I don't know"
2) Ask a question when you don't understand
3) Give enough background information
4) Try to restate what you said in other words if your partner does not understand
What are the guidelines we should follow when having a hangout with our friend?
Be kind to your friend; show good sportsmanship if you play any sports, board games, or video games; be a good host; be loyal to your friend; have conversations with your friend.
How can we show others that we are interested in what they are saying?
Our facial expressions, our body language, our tone of voice, and our choice of words.
What are reasons why it is important to share the conversation?
It can make the other person feel good, it shows that we are interested in the other person, and it shows that we are not only interested in ourselves.
What are the rules for joining a conversation?
1) Listen to what the people are talking about to identify the topic of conversation
2) Approach or walk up to the people talking
3) Wait for them to look at you or wait for a pause in their conversation
4) Say, "Were you talking about ___?
5) Ask a question or make a comment about the topic
What are the rules for ending a conversation?
1) Decide if you need to end the conversation
2) Ask one more follow-up questions or make one more on-topic comment to show you care about what the person is saying
3) Give a reason for ending the conversation
4) Say it was nice talking to them and tell them you will see them later. Then leave or walk away
What are the steps you should follow to pursue the friendship after you have met someone a couple of times and discovered that you have common interests with them?
1) Suggest getting together with them "sometime" around a common interest (do not specify a time or date yet)
2) If they say they want to hang out with you (and their facial expression and tone of voice indicates excitement too), then make a firmer plan with a specific date and time
3) If they say maybe or make an excuse that they would not be able to get together, then do not ask again