Expected vs. Unexpected Behaviors
What is an "expected behavior" when someone is talking to you?
What is body and eyes in the group
Looking at them, listening, not interrupting.
What does it mean to “think with your eyes”?
Use your eyes to make a smart guess by looking at the body language, background activity etc.
To look around and gather clues about what people are doing or feeling.
What is a small problem? Give an example.
A problem you can fix quickly, like dropping a pencil.
What does it mean to be a flexible thinker?
To change your thoughts or plans when things don’t go your way.
What are “hidden rules”?
Rules we follow even if no one says them out loud.
What might be an "unexpected behavior" during class?
What is Talking when the teacher is talking
Shouting out, getting up without permission, not listening.
Why is it important to look at others when they’re speaking?
What is they know you are listening and that you care about what they are saying
It shows you’re listening and helps you understand them better.
What is a medium-sized problem?
It may need help from a teacher, like an argument with a friend.
What is an example of stuck thinking at recess?
Refusing to play a game unless you pick it.
Why do we follow hidden rules, even if no one says them out loud?
To make others feel comfortable and show we understand the group.
True or False: Expected behaviors make others feel comfortable and safe.
true
What can you learn by looking at someone’s face and body?
Their feelings, what they’re doing, or what they want.
What should your reaction match: the size of the problem or how you feel?
The size of the problem.
How can being flexible help you play with friends?
You can take turns and try new things together.
Give one hidden rule you follow in the lunchroom.
Don’t throw food, use quiet voices, wait your turn.
You see someone trip and fall. What is the expected way to respond?
What is ask if they are ok.
If someone is looking at the door, what might they be thinking?
They might be waiting for someone or ready to leave.
Why is it important to solve small problems on your own sometimes?
It helps you grow and stay calm.
You want to be the line leader, but someone else is chosen. What should you do?
Be flexible – accept it and try again another time.
What might happen if someone doesn’t follow hidden rules on the playground?
Others might get upset, feel unsafe, or not want to play.
Give an example of something that might be expected at school but unexpected at a birthday party.
What is raising your hand.
True or False: You always have to stare at someone to show you're thinking with your eyes.
False – You can glance without staring.
Your pencil breaks. Is this a small, medium, or big problem? What should you do?
Small – Get another pencil or sharpen it.
Give an example of when you had to change your plan. Was that flexible thinking?
Open-ended – students can reflect and share.) Example: “I wanted to play soccer, but it rained so I played inside instead.”
True or False: Hidden rules are the same in every place you go.
False – Rules can change depending on where you are.