Social Skills
What is the best way to get someone else to do something we want?
Ask them nicely - do not be rude
Complete the sentence: Feelings and urges come in __
Waves (they come and go)
What is an impulse?
An urge or a feeling or thought you want to act on?
Why is it important to express your feelings?
Because you are able to talk through it and other people can help.
What does it mean to take accountability?
Say this statement as if you were annoyed: Wow, I am so excited. (Nonverbal communication lesson)
Sarcastically
What is one coping skill that we talked about?
5-4-3-2-1, Hot cocoa breaths, body scanning
Should you be silly or serious in this situation: during class when your teacher gives you free time
Serious for noise level, maybe silly for the activity you do
What type of environment should we have when discussing emotions?
Open, honest, safe, comforting, validating, etc.
How can we work through being overwhelmed by a big task?
Break it down into smaller tasks.
What are ways to keep a conversation going?
Asking questions about their interests, things they have been doing recently, and sharing information about yourself that is relevant to what they are saying
What are reasonable mind, wise mind, and emotional mind?
Emotional: guided by impulse, feelings, and urges
Wise: balance of both
What is a healthy impulse to act on during class?
Something quiet (tapping your fingers on your desk, bouncing your leg, playing with your hair, etc.)
What is the difference between assertive communication and aggressive communication?
Assertive is sticking up for yourself respectfully, aggressive is being rude.
What is a boundary?
Rules that we put in place to keep ourselves and others safe.
When is sharing a secret someone has said OKAY to do?
When they share that they are thinking of hurting themselves or others.
What is the difference between an internal coping skill and an external coping skill?
Internal is something you can do by yourself whenever, and external is something that you would need items, to ask permission, or other people for.
What is impulse control?
Controlling your urges and thoughts at times where it would not be appropriate.
Create an I message for this feeling: lonely
I feel lonely when __, because __
What are values that you have?
Things that we think our important and that we live by following.
What are the steps of making an apology?
1. Say sorry
2. Take responsibility
3. Say how you will resolve the problem
4. Ask for forgiveness
What are the steps when someone is bugging us?
1. Ask them kindly to stop
2. Ignore them
3. Tell an adult
Instead of acting impulsively, what should we do to problem solve? (SODAS lesson)
Identify the situation, list different options, go through disadvantages of each option, go through advantages of each option, and come up with the best solution
Why are I messages useful
They place ownership of your feelings on you, rather than blaming the other person
What is the appropriate way to give feedback?
Remain calm, begin with a positive statement or praise, be specific about what you are giving feedback on, state why you think the feedback is important, listen to what the other person has to say, avoid any negative statements