Boundaries and Consent
True or false: You can tell you have someone’s consent from body language
False! Consent must be verbally given. Anything else is unclear and you should always ask for clarification if you are not sure.
True or False: When a partner is constantly tracking your location and demanding to know where you are located at all times, this is a red flag
True! A partner must respect your comforts, boundaries and location. There has to be trust and open communication.
True or False: Flirting feels good for both people involved
True! Flirting respects boundaries, and makes people feel liked!
If I am expressing my needs in a hurtful way, criticizing and blaming, and pushing others away, am I using:
A. Aggressive communication
B. Passive Communication
C. Assertive Communication
D. No communication
A. Aggressive Communication. Using aggressive communication is quick, but can be hurtful.
Yes/No: When breaking up someone, should you offer false hope that you could get back together in the future?
No! It can be nice to make the breakup hurt less, but honesty is best here to not cause more confusion.
I share deeply personal information about myself when I barely know someone. I have: Healthy or Unhealthy Boundaries?
I have unhealthy boundaries! I should first become comfortable with someone to see if I can trust them with the vulnerable sids of me.
Your partner demands to know your passwords, monitors who you follow and what you post, and constantly messages you when you have communicated that you are busy. What red flag is this?
Volatility
Digital dating abuse
Tracking
Isolation
Digital Dating Abuse
True or False: Sexual Harassment has to happen more than once to be considered "real" or a "problem"
False! If it happens once, it is very much real and a problem.
My friend calmly pulled me aside and asked me to not touch her hair without asking. She did not raise her voice, and she made a clear comment about what she needed of me. Is this an example of Assertive communication or Passive-Aggressive Communication?
This is an example of ASSERTIVE communication. Your friend calmly talked to you, was honest, and did not disrespect you, all while expressing her needs.
True/False: Stereotypes are not harmful because they attach labels to everyone based on preconceived/previously thought things
False! Stereotypes are harmful no matter what, because they limit us to roles that we may not fit into!
Your friend pressures you to tell them why you're upset even though you don't want to talk about it now.
This Violates:
A.) Physical Boundaries
B.) Material Boundaries
C.)Emotional Boundaries
D.)Intellectual Boundaries
Emotional Boundaries
Abuse is all about two things. One of them is power. What is the other?
Control. An abuser wants to feel like they can choose things for you, and have you do whatever they want you to do.
Yes/No: If someone is attractive, are they allowed to "flirt" and make any type of comment that they want?
No! No matter how "attractive" someone is, everyone is deserving of respect and safety.
True/False: Spongebob is outside with his best friend, Homer Simpson. Someone accidentally sits on Spongebob while they are out on a bench. Spongebob stayed quiet, and tried to avoid having an issue by not saying anything. Is this passive communication?
Yes! Spongebob was not expressing his needs at all, and allowed someone to literally sit on him.
Yes/No: You and your partner have a conversation about the pace you want to go at in your relationship, and your partner requests space after the talk to process. You happily say that it is okay and you guys each do your own thing for the day. Is this an example of Healthy Conflict and green flags?
Yes! You and your partner were not yelling. You were having a needed conversation in order to strengthen your relationship, and then you respected your partner's request for space, enforcing the Healthy Conflict and Respect green flags.
True or False: I asked my romantic partner if we could hold hands, she enthusiastically said “Yes” and grabbed my hand. I got consent
True! Your partner was excited, and verbally said yes.
True or False: A red flag is an indicator that this person may not be for you or that the relationship is unhealthy.
True. Red means stop, and in people, a red flag should have you stop and consider the relationship to see if it can be worked on or if the relationship is unhealthy for you.
When making jokes, is it okay to make jokes about things that may might the person uncomfortable?
NO!
True/False: If I am using Passive-Aggressive communication, I am being super clear about my feelings in the kindest way possible with no errors at all.
False! Passive-Aggression is indirectly expressing your feelings, often through things like sarcasm. You try to diffuse the situation by seeming passive, but are still acting out of anger/a negative feeling.
Should a need of yours be compromised or should they be a hard boundary?
Needs should be hard boundaries! They are what make you feel safe, comfortable and happy, and those should be protected.
True/False: Boundaries are about telling people what to do.
False! Boundaries are about expressing what makes you comfortable and what makes you uncomfortable, so that you can build a safe, equitable relationship with people.
What is it called when your friend or partner makes comments that make you feel small, or less than yourself?
Belittling.
If you are unsure if your flirting is making someone uncomfortable, is it better to keep going or check-in with them first?
It is always better to check-in! It is better to have that awkward conversation BUT make that person feel safe, than it is to make them uncomfortable.
True/False: The main goals of communication are to get our needs met and strengthen our relationships.
True
Yes/No: My friend is currently in an unhealthy relationship. I don't know what to do, and I am scared to tell my parents. Should I tell my guidance counselor at school so I can hopefully get help?
Yes! Trusted adults have access to more resources, and will know more about what to do to help your friend.