Establishing Relationships
Examples: meeting someone new, joining a group conversation, talking with friends from class, being on a date, going out to a party.
What are social situations?
The name of ONE (or more) BOLD staff member.
Who is Mr. Art/Mr. Mike/Ms. Stephanie/Mr. M?
When people don't get along because they want different things; someone feels upset by what the other person did.
What is a conflict?
Best dressed BOLD staff member
Who is Mr. M?
Self Awareness
What is the skill of noticing your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.
The C in C.A.R.E.S.
Focusing on the other person's interests using facial expressions, posture, verbal cues and using their name to connect.
What is Connect with Interest?
Any exchange, behavior, or communication that creates a sense of connection, mutual respect, support or goodwill.
What is a Positive Interaction?
Your favorite Ice Breaker activity.
What is _____________?
Reconnect by Letting Go, one of the 3R's in Repairing Relationships.
What is letting go of feelings of hurt or frustration that you're holding on to in order to reconnect?
Social Awareness
What is the skill of noticing how your actions affect how others feel by paying attention to social cues?
The A in C.A.R.E.S.
Ex: "What are you doing after school today?"
"How do you feel about our test in 5th period?"
"How long have you been playing soccer?"
What is Ask Questions?
Any disrespectful or unsupportive comment or action that damages a relationship.
What is a Negative Interaction?
Decrease Loud Emotions, one of the 5D's for resolving conflict.
What is turning down loud emotions to stay in control and make good decisions?
The restorative conversation type: Apologize by Taking Ownership.
What is identifying something you did wrong, owning up the mistake, and apologizing for how it hurt the other person?
Finding self awareness facts/realities.
What is spotting gaps between what we want to do with others, and what we actually do?
The treats you got as prizes for participating in each session.
What is candy?
Things that we know can amplify or activate our emotions and can lead to problems with others.
What are Switches/Triggers?
A solution to a conflict where everyone agrees, even if they don't get exactly what they want.
What is a Compromise?
Restorative Conversation.
What is a conversation that seeks to understand and repair harms in order to restore a relationship?
Self-Acceptance
What is accepting that each of us is unique, with strengths, and weaknesses, without judging or comparing?
The S in C.A.R.E.S
Adding or responding to a conversation to keep the conversation going.
What is Share about yourself?
Specific Positive Interactions
What are ways we show someone we noticed what they said or did, so they feel seen, appreciated, and supported?
Self-advocate as a solution to conflict.
What is a solution where one person speaks up respectfully for themselves and about their own needs?
The restorative conversation: Separating the Deed from the Doer.
What is separating a person's behavior from their worth as a person?
" I can accomplish hard things."
" My mistakes don't define me."
" I am becoming someone I am proud of."
What are positive affirmations?